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writes:Alright so my situation is very, very complicated.I met this girl at a party back in February. She came on to me, thought I was cute, asked me to go with her to buy some beer and then when we got back, we just danced and had easily one of the greatest nights of my life (we havent had sex yet, it was just soo much fun).Anyways, we saw each other twice after that over the next week or so, cant really remember it was back in February. So anyways, for a while I was afraid of loving her. She would text me and ask, what am I doing, where am I and such. It annoyed me, but I am a laid back guy, so I would answer her and we would talk.Then, like a month past and we didnt see each other at all. I would ask her if she wanted to do something and she either wouldnt respond or would say shes busy. See the thing with this is, I was only in a language school and went to class 8-1230 and was done. She however is in College and lives 2 hours away. So its not like she was just a few minutes away. Anyways, this is where the complications begin.So for a while, I tried to forget about her, tried to see other girls, but something happened to me and I was just unable to...So I think in April, I went to her college to meet her. We had been talking about it (Hadnt seen her since early March) and she knew i was coming. But well I get there (This is Costa RIca, not the US and my spanish isnt fluent and I dont go to this college) and I text her/call her/walk around for 3 hours in the rain and she never picks up... Lets just say, with my strong feelings for her, the fact she makes me feel special and well I hadnt seen her in a while, my emotions about this were uncontrollable. I was furious, I was heart-broken, etc.. This happened to be my last week in the school, so my final week was basically ruined.The messages I sent her, were ummm, regrettable. Like why would you do that, I walked around forever and just angry texts. Nothing like, I hate you or wish I had never met you or anything like that, but just angry. So we talked about it and that Friday/Saturday I went to see her. But well, it was past awkward. I didnt know what to say. When we went to the bar, she was with all of her friends and basically just talked to them. Also, these werent girls, they were guys (the ones she was talking to), so I had no clue what to think, were they her boyfriends, guys she liked, etc... I texted her later on and told her I felt really weird and she replied like, those were just my friends etc.. and then other things..However, 2 fridays ago, I went to see her again. We had been talking about it. She told me she missed me and stuff like that. It was a lot of fun, we just kissed like usual (only a short 10 sec. kiss though) and then she kissed me on the lips before I got on the bus and said she would call...Anyways, I started to feel dreadful after that night. We hung out between 330-7 and then she left to go to a birthday party where she lives. But while on the bus, I just began feeling awful. I missed her already and hated how I only got to see her every couple of weeks, to every couple of months......Then I sent her another message that goes like..."I really do miss you though and only seeing you once every couple of weeks or months just isnt enough.I have tried to play it cool, but my mind has had different plans and its driving me crazy.Its fine if you dont feel the same way about me as I do you and if you dont, then tell me. Because I cant let these feelings be held up any longer and while I would be hurt, it will help me think easier and help me in the long run...Please I need to know. I know you are busy with school and stuff, but I just feel like you send me a lot of mixed signals..."She responded, "Do't worry, in my free time I'm gonna call you! But this are last weeks in the U is final of semester end i'm so stressed." (shes hispanic and her english isnt perfect BTW)My response: "I know... High School just did nothing to help prepare me for things like this...I dont want you to think I am weird or crazy, I just have never been like this before. I have too much free time on my hands which isnt helping either..."So anyways, I wish I hadnt sent that message, but its already done, so nothing I can do.Anyways since then, we have talked a little. I went to the bar with my friend and once it got to be about 7, I asked how she was and we talked a little. Then I found out I didnt get a job I was really, really relying on and how I felt depressed, because this might mean I have to leave early (July 12th) and I felt lost. And she responded to that...Then a couple of nights ago, I said Buenas Noches and she responded, "Buenas noches guapo" (good night handsome), which made me feel better.My biggest problem is I make assumptions. I have been seriously hurt before by girls and its kinda ruined me. She will tell me how she misses me, how she wants me and even once said Te amo (I love you), but I guess it doesnt quite mean the same thing in spanish. But she rarely ever texts me and never invites me to anything... I dont know what to think about that, since she at times tells me one day I will be at her house and such...Anyways, today I found out from my dad that I might have to leave when I was scheduled to in just 2 weeks, rather than staying an extra 5 months until December. So I told her this, at first she didnt seem too sad. Just "Oh :(, bad news :'(." And then I responded, yep, but she seemed to be a little bit more worried after that.Anyways, even if I dont leave, could I use this to my advantage. Be like, I want you to know how I really have felt about you. You are a very special person to me and I do care about you. The reason why I may overreact in some of my messages is because I care about you, but I never get to see you and it kills me...and then like, even if I never see you again I want you to know that you will always be a special person to me and made costa rica wonderful whenever I got to see you...And stuff like thatThis situation has made me more confused than ever before in my life. But should I tell her, exactly how I feel. I mean, just forgetting about her is impossible, tried that, didnt work... Time isnt on my side either. I wanted to go this entire week without messaging her, but I dont have the time to make that possible. So should I tell her how I feel and use this limited time frame as an excuse to do it? Should I wait a couple of days longer to do this? Or should I just avoid telling her how special she is to me and stuff like that???
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reader, myself12345 +, writes (29 June 2010):
myself12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe just invited me to a birthday party of her friend.
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