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writes:Hey i've got a slight problem. Me and this guy dated when we were 12-14 and i was totally in love with him, and him with me but we kinda drifted apart. But now we've suddenly become close again and started hanging out, but he has a girlfriend. He tells me he loves me all the time, and i no he means it. We met up and had sex, is wasn't planned it just happened. I know it's wrong but i thought he'd finish his girlfriend and me and him would get back together.I was wrong, he said he "can't" finish her. We have spoken non stop everyday for the past week, since the sex and i no he wouldn't use me. But i told him i can't be arsed being his bit on the side, and that if he likes his girlfriend i should get out of his life. He hasn't spoken to me since i said it, and i no he's worth fighting for. But should i just forget him, or fight for him. And have i done the right thing letting him go?Help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Stay well clear =)
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reader, goingcrazy3388  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Well,I have been through this one before. My ex-boyfriend had a girlfriend and started talking to me again all of a sudden. He was telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me. I finally told him he had to choose between her and me and he told me that was fine he chose her because he only wanted to have sex with me anyways not actually be with me and he was only telling me he loved me to try to sleep with me. I am not saying this is your case,but if he really loved you,then he would leave her to be with you. You deserve someone who wants to be with you and only you. If he won't do that,then he's not the one for you anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): ok here's my take.he likes you both and doens't want to leave either of you... he has a girlfriend. you should just wait it out until he's single... it's going to be hard for him to choose between the two of you. I believe that you think he's forth fighting for. Tell him that he either has to pick between the two of you or lose you because you can't keep being his thing on the side because thats no good for either of you.if he picks her over you then he's not worth it ok?I hope this helped you in some way Good Luck ! :D *~VG~*
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Wow, okay, well if he really loves you then he would fight for you as well as you fighting for him. As for doing the right thing, well, he should have broken up with her before anything happened with you guys, you were doing the right thing in telling him what you thought. The thing is he has to make a desision, he can't do this to two people he says he loves even if he does, it's not right, hopefully everything will work itself out, good luck, if he doesn't choose you then he's not worth it, it's not your fault, you just don't want to hurt anyone or be second to him.
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