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writes: Hi, this is a question about relationships between friends,I really can't trust any of my friends, it's not them, well it is sometimes! But it's just me, I just can't tell people my feelings, it's getting bad, everything is so bottled up inside, I can act normal around people and everything but whenever I'm alone so at times like before bed I just start to think about everything an I'll just cry...Things tht are getting me downI'm always single, when I was 15 I had a bf who esentially told me to hve sex with him, I didn't know I could say no but it wasn't rape I knew that because it was enjoyable, I knew I couldn't handle sex at 15 and so I left him. I've been single ever since.The other day in school I just started crying because my friends who always have bfs just started talking over me when I was crying.It really upset because I just feel like all my life I've ben a third wheel and a follower and it make me feel so un important, when my friends asked me what was wrong I just made up some stuff about exam stress and they were like "you'll be fine" and haven't asked me how I was, the most support I got was from a teacher who saw me crying, sat me down and asked me how I was but once again I just said exam stress, except he didn't buy it but yold me I didn't have to tell him. I feel horrible about my body, I'm so fat, especially my thighs, I work in them for 10 mins a day and have done for ages but there is almost no change, I also go running but that's mainlyto clear my head so I can sleep.The only time I'ma confident ebough to talk to guys is when I'm drunk and any guy I will like won't like me I can guarentee you.Anyway my question, should I just force myself to open up?And can anyone tell me how to deal with any of thi? Help would be majorly apreciated, thanks
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reader, Xtina356  +, writes (26 May 2010):
A lot of boys are just as shy around girls as you are with boys. You will find the strength to talk to a boy when there is a connection. Don't stress so much about your appearance. We all have different bodies and everyone has someone who finds them attractive. But if you feel strongly that you want to change yours, spend more time exercising and change your diet. Set reasonable goals every week for a weigh in. If you can conquer your weight, you can conquer anything. Next, no matter what, you are the boss. You don't have to be nice. Nice is overrated sometimes. Strong willed and determined are much better qualities. You should always be the one in control and ready to make decisions that would best suit you. Respect starts from within. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will respect you. Finally, you only have to disclose personal feelings with people who you trust. If you have 1 person in your life you can go to, that is more important than having 100 friends that you don't trust.
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