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writes:Hi Aunts and Uncles,I've been seeing a guy for a number of weeks now, been on a few dates and I really enjoy his company. He's the first guy I've ever really been with without considering looks, I adore his personality and that he can have a laugh with me, all my friends think I'm out of his league but I'm not even bothered about that, I like him for who he is.But the thing is I feel like he keeps messing me around, we were seeing eachother for about five weeks, seeing each other a couple of times a week, then after that he started letting me down a lot, he said he would see me and then would cancel at the last minute. Eventually I got annoyed and told him simply that I was disappointed that I wouldn't be seeing him and that he kept cancelling, he went totally psycho and said 'Oh I'm never good enough blah blah blah' and he stopped talking to me. A couple of weeks later, I'd let him calm down and sent a snap chat asking how he was, we chatted like old times and then he text saying that he was missing me. Then I met up with him and he apologised to me and asked me to be his real girlfriend and I gleefully accepted.We had a wonderful day together, then a couple of days later he becomes a little distant with me over text, he snapchatted me a sad an confused face and said he couldn't be arsed, I asked couldn't be arsed with what and he said 'life' so I said whats wrong, he didn't tell me, I text him asking what was wrong, text him again saying I was worried and left it twelve hours and said 'Please just tell me what is going on. I'm confused and ignoring me isn't helping. I care about you and I want you to be happy. What's wrong?' He still hasn't replied and is ignoring me :/ is he just messing me about and isn't serious or ? I just I don't know I want an ip
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): He is brooding about something and being a little boy. I know you are concerned; but just leave him alone.
When people don't respond to your messages, it's a good practice to try a couple of times to reach them, then stop. Give it about 48 hours and you may try a phone call.
If he's acting childish and can't man-up and tell you what's going on, don't sit still waiting. Go about your usual day and enjoy your friends. Some people just like to dramatize and have someone to fret over them.
Let him be a big baby and just go out, and have fun as usual.
If you don't know what's wrong, why bother worrying?
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reader, kenny +, writes (17 July 2013):
 I think its good of you to put aside the looks thing and your dating him for who he is, despite your friends telling you that you are out of his league.
However i think that based on what you have said, this gut is a complete jerk and is messing you around. He probally knows he is punching above his weight dating you, and rather than try to hang on to you he is messing you around. He did it on one occasion, you tried again, then he started again, saying he can't be arsed with life then going quiet, im sorry but my advice would be to delete his number from your phone and never speak to him again, you can do so much better for yourself.
Good luck
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