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41-50,
*obme
writes:I have a few questions here. After being newly single after many years I am confused if a guy likes me or is just being "friendly". I have been in a few situations where I thought we were just "friendly" and then BAM! he thinks I like him or he wants to date me. I have 2 brothers and was raised as a tomboy and I have always had a lot guy friends all my life. I am clueless if men like me or are just being nice to get to know me. Is it that a guy will get to know me if he is interested in me for dating? I get blamed a lot for flirting when I am just being me and I'm nice to everyone period. Trust me I truly don't know how to flirt properly. I'm CLUELESS!! I know its silly at 33 years old to ask these questions but I was married almost my whole adult life and I have only been in 2 relationships in my whole life.As far as that goes any help would be appreciated!! Also I have an ex boyfriend that has after a few years started to reappear and came into my work to say "Hey and long time no see, how are you?!" UGH..He was smiling and looking me dead in the eyes the whole time. Yucky thing is he is now married with many children. I don't want to talk to him and lead him on. I don't want anything to do with him now.Story of my life my exes always want a piece of me after we are no longer together and the others I have no clue if they like me or are being nice!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 It's very difficult to answer your question in the way you state it. Maybe other people could give you "general" principles, but I would need specific information. Feel free to e-mail me and summarize a "real-life" case, so I can give you an opinion whether you were mistaken or not.
However, I can say this much, being as I am in the other side of the fence. Sometimes a man just wants to take you and he doesn't care whether you are just friendly or not. This happens, sometimes, when some men learn that you're just in the market again and suppose that's reason enough for you to be anxious for anyone. But, and this is often overlooked, sometimes a person is naturally "too friendly", and her gestures are honestly mistaken for a deeper interest. In this case, the man is innocent. I suppose you're aware of this and that's the reason of your post.
By the way, you must be a very good woman, or your exes wouldn't be back for more.
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