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writes: my problem is that i can't stop flirting with my colleagues, sometimes i get good response and sometimes bad.i keep falling in flirting thing, even though i'm not interested in sexual relation, i don't want and i didn't ask for any kind of relation.the problem is that i can't understand why i keep doing this, i'm already married and happy with my life.any thoughts please.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all, you gave some thoughts to think, that was helpful
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 There is only something wrong with flirting, if you feel like you have gotten a response that indicates you have taken it too far, or if you feel like you may be flirting because you are attracted to someone that you are trying to illicit a response from.
Then it becomes dangerous.
If it is truly harmless, silly flirting - and you are having fun, and not crossing any lines - you are fine.
If you feel like you aren't comfortable being the way you are, and want to change your behaviour - do just that. Don't surround yourself with people you tend to flirt with, keep out of situations that you feel will be tempting for you.
I am an advocate of flirting if it isn't done in a way that hurts anybody or leads anybody on. But it is ultimately your decision, if you feel like this may spiral into something more serious then you need to take the right precautions and efforts to stop the behaviour in its' tracks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): It all depends of course what kind of flirting it is!!!
If it's just playful, tickling, prodding,teasing, that kind of thing then it can be taken as messing around to kill the time of day.
If you are making strong eye contact, giving verbal sexual innuendos, or touching someone a lot especially intimately, then this can be taken as serious and meaningful.I would say rightly so!and there is also a very fine line between this and sexual harassment.
It also depends on the person you are flirting with, if a particular person takes it to mean that you are suggesting something more than you are, then it can lead to serious misunderstandings.You only need to do it with a woman who is feeling vulnerable and before long you will have a follower with a crush on you, who also thinks you have a crush on her! Get out of that one!!!
Be careful!!! One day there may be a lady who takes it seriously and it could all go pear shaped for you!!!
I have been there, it does happen.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (14 November 2010):
 It's an instinct just like puffing up chests, flashing your wings or tail in the animal kingdom. The human species is monogamous but people still have the desire to be alpha male or females. It's a confirmation that you are attractive, virile. It doesn't matter how many children you have. As long as you live you will have the desire to proove your manhood. Just flirt with those who wouldn't mind and make sure is more like a joke and nothing sexual.
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reader, Elainey  +, writes (14 November 2010):
Try to flirt less.And be yourself =)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 Hi well am guessing that it is just your personality. Lots of married men and women flirt but they dont mean any harm and they have no intention on cheating its just who they are. Im afraid there is not a lot you can do except try and stopping the flirting. Take it bit by bit and aim to flirt less every week.
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