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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I met my ex boyfriend about 3 months ago when we I was out with friends. The thing is I havent seen him in about five years and I am with my current boyfriend for almost 4 years.He is a lovely guy and we get on really well. Now I havent seen him since then but I keep haven dreams about him and also other guys I know ... and daydreaming about how it would be nice to be single for a while. I love my boyfreind and dont want to lose him but i dont know why i have been feeling this way since seeing my ex! A few old regrets came up between us when we bumped into each other but nothing happened... I keep thinking about him tho even tho i havent seen him in 3 months! what is wrong with me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): You say you get on really well with your current man but how are things sexually? Do you feel attracted to him enough? Or do you feel sex with your ex was way better? If you kep dreaming about him and other guys, maybe it is because your current relationship leaves you unsatisfied. It happened to me with my ex hubby and it was because I had never got over the guy I was enaged to before him. But also you have to think that your ex must be an ex for reason, right? Maybe it is just that you need to be single and experience the freedom and the excitement of the dating scene (but don't underetimate the downsides of being on your own). My advice is: if you can get away for a few day and stay at a friend or at your parents and take time on your own to look in your heart, then you'll find the answer. Just don't leave your man for your ex, cause it all may crumble all in your hands. Leave your man only if you know he's not the one you want to be with and then take your chances knowing that it could turn out into nothing and you may have to be single for a while to find the right guy. Good luck, really take your time and do some thinking.
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