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I can't stop thinking about her and I'm scared I'll do something I might regret!

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Question - (3 July 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 July 2008)
A male United States age 30-35, *amhamss writes:

Ok, this one is long and complicated. I'm really taking a breakup very badly. It was technically my fault. My ex and I were arguing and at one point I said,'I just don't know anymore' and she said that i wanted to break up, I told her I didn't know if I did or not, and she said that I meant that I did, It turns out i didn't. Well, I said some terrible things she's forgiven me for when I was trying to get back with her. Things are tough for her since she's moving out and I feel like I need to help her. she doesn't want to get back together though and I'm getting obsessive. I don't like admitting it, but I can't stop bothering her, and I'm getting really upset, I can't get her off my mind. I shouldn't get back with her even if I wanted to because she has done some terrible things in most of her relationships. She's broken many hearts before, and unfortunately, mine is now on the list. She can be a liar and a manipulator and I don't even know when she's lying to me, she doesn't have any tells. I can't stop thinking about her and i'm getting scared I'll do something i'm going to regret.

I talked to other people about it, and they say it's normal, but they don't know my problem with attachment. I can get overly attached for long periods of time, even years. i don't want her to be one of those things that I just get crazy and depressed for years.

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A male reader, ChiRaven United States +, writes (3 July 2008):

ChiRaven agony auntIf you're serious about wanting to get over this woman there are a couple of books that will help you. They are based on a psychological technique called behavior modification, and they deal with "how to fall OUT of love" and "breaking your addiction to a person". Look them up on Amazon or a local bookstore. I think they are less than $10 each.

The techniques really DO help you get over someone you're really stuck on and just can't get out of your mind. I was dumped, after two terrific years, by a woman who I thought of hundreds of times a day and would have done ANYTHING to get back with. Those books helped me break the cycle, to the point that now (15 months later) she and I can even be friends without my feeling a need to have her as a lover any more. But that was tough.

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