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*rielbriane
writes:I'm always thinking, "What if I get pregnant?" and my answer in my head is, no matter what i'd keep the baby since me and my boyfriend both talk about it all the time, we cant wait until we're older to have kids.i never had a good mother, she was never around and when she was, she was dragging me with her as she bought more drugs. i think i really cant wait to be a mother, to prove to my mom and myself that i can be better, i can do the right thing, and i'd show my baby unconditional love. but im know im too young... me and my boyfriend are truly in love, no doubts at all. we wish we didnt have to wait to start our true life together, our own family, our own house. we both have major family problems and just want out, to be together, just me and him. we're really nothing without each other.but lately all thats been on my mind is babies, im always talking about it, saying i want one so bad, ive even thought i was pregnant once or twice, but turns out i wasnt. sad thing is, i think i was more dissapointed then happy. i dont know what to do, its so hard to know whats right and to know i cant have a baby at the age of 16, but i know i could do it. im not sure what to do. i have dreams about me pregnant often too, lately i've had three. im not sure what im asking advice about, i just needed to talk about it. but i need help to get over the "baby craving" im having. i have to finish high school first. what should i do, no matter what, i cant convince myself that having a baby wouldnt be good for me right now. i want to have that unconditional love, i dont have friends, i spend all of my time with my boyfriend and at school, and sometimes when im feeling a little social, i hangout with the only two people i consider friends. so i would have time for my baby, the only problem is school.im scared if i keep thinking about this, i will get pregnant, but i wont be ready yet. i know my boyfriend would be there with me though.HELP?! :'(i dont know what to do. i dont want to think about babies right now.please dont judge me for my feelings, ive honestly had a rough life with not much love, and i guess thats why i want my own child, my own family, to make up for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Look, I'm 16 and I often think the same. Alot of girls do these days! Having a baby may be a big decision and you may only be 16 but it does not mean you cannot do it. I know loads of teenage mums and they are amazing at it. Just because you are 16 and you dont have as much money as you would like, it doesnt mean you cant have a baby. There are people to help and people to talk to.
If having a baby is all thats on your mind, maybe you should have one - you are clearly really into the idea and have said so yourself that you know you could do it.
Waiting untill you;ve finished school would be the best thing, but you do not need to wait for 15 years...It is your life, and your decision... if you want someone to love and someone to hold then have a baby, no one can make the decision but you.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 November 2009):
 It sounds like you want a baby so you can give your baby the mother you didnt have but your not ready because you said you arent ready in about 15 years when you have a husband a car a stable job and your own house then you can consider having a baby you should wait.
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