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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very much in love. I have a problem though. I can't help but get disgusted when I think about him having sex in the past with his then girlfriend. I've never met her...It was before we even knew each other but I still can't stand that he had unprotected sex with her and touched her. It makes me so grossed out to the point where I don't even like him touching me...I have no idea why I feel this way and don't know what to do about it. Any help? Advice? ANYTHING?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the advice, but it isn't so much an obsession with cleanliness as it is a jealousy...I just can't stand that he once touched her in perhaps the same way he touches me...it makes me feel less special. Like I can't compare
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reader, BethBaby  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 Is it the fact that he's had sex with someone else other than you? Or the cleanliness thing? If it's the first then try not to think about it.. that was in the past and I'm sure he's very much in love with you now :)If it's the second then I think you should get some help from someone.. talk to someone xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 You are having this problem because you have judged your b/f according to your standards and have not forgiven him. You should forgive your b/f for his past deeds. We should not be too judgmental of others.
Whenever you think of that image of him , say "I forgive him."
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