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writes:i would like to say thank you in advance and im sorry that this is so long. my parents split up when i was in fourth grade and my dad got together with this woman and i can not stand her. like at first she put on an act and everything so me being a little kid beleived she was the nice next door lady she appeared to be, but they moved in with each other when i was at my moms house and they had only dated for like a month or two. then when she started living with us she started making me go home early and early i started going home six in the morning and i was only allowed to come over certain days and its been like that going on five years know. i only go to my dads on saturdays pretty much now and she puts little x's on her calender so that i wont even be able to come over at all, and my dad doesnt say anything and we had a falling out during the summer because they found out that i had sex. my dad wasnt even that upset but she made me tell my dad and mom, she said that she couldnt keep secrets it was the same day i had come back from a two week stay with my aunt in maine. she called me up the day i got back and told me either i had to tell them or she would, so i did then later that night she called me and said she knew that my dad would never be able to see me in the same light again and that i would never be his little girl again. this hurt me so bad because i guess you could say that i always tried to protect my dad from me growing up i wouldnt do a lot of the things i normally did at my moms because i knew that he still saw me as his little girl. I didnt go back to their house for months and my dad kept asking me if i wanted my stuff from his house to come to my moms i would tell him no then one day i came home and my mom said my dad was bringing my stuff over when asked her why she avoided the question so i went to my room to put my stuff away and when i came down the hallway i heard my mom and aunt talking and my mom was really mad because my dads girlfriend had packed up all my stuff and put it in the garage in boxes. i go to my dads again now but i will never again leave anything here even though they ask me to, but when i started coming back my dads girlfriends sister asked me to come over and i have always liked her she was the one that was actually nice but she gave me some of my shirts and told me that my dads girlfriend had given them to her and for me to go home and hide them in my bags so she wouldnt see them, and thats just another reason that i dont leave anything over there anymore. my dad and her always seem to be drinking or for her smoking cigarrets and him pot even though he thinks that i dont know, but then she will complain about money after buying some really expensive nikey stuff or something to do with golfing or shooting but yell at me if my dad takes me to get something even if its for school i really cant stand her. she always has something bad to say about my moms side of the family she cant stand them at all she calls my mom and older brothers names and she has been calling me little shit since i met her practicly or shitty and these comments really hurt my feelings. i guess im asking what the best way to handle this situation would be because im at my wits end. thank you for reading this and any comments that you put.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I live with the yin and yang symbol around my neck and tattooed on my back to always remind to find my balance and help others find their balance in this world. I'm open to any questions you may want to ask me, I promise I will do my best. I'm not afraid to cry or show emotion but I will also kick butt with eight years of Shotokan karate training.Yeah, it's plain to see that baby you're beautiful And there's nothing wrong with you... It's me, I'm a freak but thanks for lovin' me Cause you're doing it perfectly
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 You need to speak to your dad alone, without her around. Tell him everything that's going on. She has no right to be calling anyone names, and he needs to tell her that what she is doing is unacceptable. Ask your dad if you 2 can go for coffee or something, then talk to him. Tell him that you are really hurt by this, and that you just want her to stop being so controlling. Surely he'll understand and appreciate your maturity by talking to him.
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