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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,my ex girl of three years went on a break with me back in march then sent me an email telling me its over a month ago and i have been doing fine getting past her but now for some reason i can't sleep and all i can do is think about her. i don't know what to do to get past this and get over her. I don't know if i should email her and tell her what's going on with me but i know she will not respond and by breaking up over email i doubt she cares. so anybody have any tips?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2012):
 I don't think you should contact her and tell her how you feel, it will only make you feel worse if she does not reply. Your right it was really horrible of her to break up with you over email, she should have done the decent thing and do it to your face. She is a coward.
These things take time to heal though, yes it is really hard at the moment, three years is a long time, so you are going to need to give yourself some time to get used to the fact that you are both over. You might not have accepted it when she first said it and thats why you felt fine, it is probably just hitting you now, allow yourself time to grieve about the loss of the relationship.
Time really does heal, plus don't sit around doing nothing, keep yourself busy and active, don't be afraid to talk to family and friends about how you are feeling as well. It is always good to talk, but stay away from contacting your ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): Hi,
I don't think it's a good idea to contact her. I'm saying this, because as a girl if I ever feel that a guy is acting even the slightest bit desperate I would feel suffocated an I would want to run away. Also you say that you have been doing fine getting over her. Don't stop now. You just have to hang on. If you let yourself keep going back to thinking of her and missing her and getting in touch with her you will hurt 100 times more. I know I've been ther, trust me you just need to hang on right now and stay strong. Just don't go back to her.
You have two great advantages. 1- You are young. You have plenty of time to find another person. 2- You are a guy. Time is always on your side. You will still be sexy when you are old. It will never be too late for you to start a family and have kids if thats what you want. If you on the other hand decide to stay single it's totaly cool. Many married men will envy you, and nobody will pity you or think you are a loser because you are single.
You will be fine. I know you are hurting now but it will pass.
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