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writes:ok im 16 and i want a baby. im really good with them and ive tried to get over it but i cnt shake the feeling. i have this best friend(friends with benifits) and he says that i lite up when im around babies and weve tlkd about if i was to get pregnant he would take care of me and our baby but i need advice. im so confused i dnt know wat to do!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Well I was 20 when I had my son, he is three months old today (24th) Im now 21. I LOVE my baby soooo much he is the LIGHT of my life and my boyfriends as well. But we are having SUCH a financial hardship. He was a bit of a surprise and we are both unemployed, as it is almost impossible to find a job where we live, and my boyfriend is over qualified for almost everything. Babies also take a LOT of time out of your relationship as a couple. My advice to you is to wait until youve finnished highschool at the very LEAST, wait until you are in a permanent, stable relationship are preferably married AND can afford/ be able to pay household costs. Until you can dxo that hold off. Believe me, it is harder han you think. Babies are fun yes, but you almost never sleep until they are at least three months old, and unless you really need to have a place to yourself and not be living with parents and such. The laundry and dishes (bottles and such) are endless!!!!! (esp clothes omg) and the only thing you will really have time for is raising your baby. Unless you can pay a babysitter forget about time for school, you wont have it. Or much time to hang out. Plz just wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): i'm 25 and pregnant with my first - baby is not even here yet and i am seriously and utterly overwhelmed. Fantasy is nice, reality bites ... please don't rush into anything because you have your whole life a head of you to have children. And remember, babies don't stay babies for long.
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reader, shortone1 +, writes (24 April 2010):
 hi, dont act on this want of yours..!! for Real if you want a baby spend the night at my house for a whole week or how about a month and take care of my new baby that is three months old.. wow.. I could really use the break since her birth i haven't been able to do anything for myself or even have time to get my shape back. so now im 20lbs heavier and have this baby that i have to take care of sure my husband wanted the baby and i gave birth for him to have a baby but yet im stuck changin diapers,giving her baths , feeding her, holding her, playing with her, waking up in the middle of the night to her crys for food and a diaper change. wow. its alot of work. I will let you try it out if you live in washington state that is. just let me know if you feel like havein a child after you have actually taken care of one straight for a whole month. i have taken care of her straight since her birth and I still feel overwhelmed, have a need for cash,and want to give her tha world and i love her so much but i am stressed to the max and sometimes i show it but other times i suk it up and take it because being a mother is the hardest part of life. we do everything i mean everything. even tho my husband says he helps, he doesnt; help like i want him too... really they only help when they want to and given that time i usually clean up after him and thats what my day consists of is waking up feeding baby /taking care of the baby while my husband sleeps and im sleep deprived, cleaning and cleaning and takeing care of the baby. wow. please dont have a child until well your older .. way olderrr. i am 21 and havent' stepped foot in a bar to see what its like and i havent' gone out at all. i am a great women. i need you to babysit. because my baby is considered a colicky baby lets see if you want a baby after taken care of my baby girl. let me know. alil too long of an answer but i had to get it all out.. thanks. D
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Wanting a baby is a good goal to have. But right now, you can't take care of a baby emotionally or financially. You're in school and you don't have a steady boyfriend. Life will get hard if not impossible for you if you have one now, and it's not the baby's fault.
Wait until you're older and more established in the world.
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