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writes:I can't seem to stay sexually attracted to the same girl.I can love the person but after few weeks or months I just cant have sex with her... all of my past girlfriends where gorgeously looking But really after some time I get into a battle with myself to try to have sex with her. and after some time i just cant. thy always think it is them that cant get me "horny" and for me i don't mind not having sex with her for months but after some time it gets in the way of the relationship and it starts to brake apart.I do love sex and after some time i just end up cheating on the girl which i hate doing but i really can not force my self to have sex with someone i don't want ...I have stayed single for the past 3 years and had on and of sex with random girls at least 2 times a week and in some cases even with 3 girls at the same time or 2 girls in the same day so i am extremely active. but i recently triad to stay in a relationship and the same thing happened with her. I just wasn't able to want to have sex with her.I am afraid i will stay like this , I am growing up and I really don't want to end up hurting a girl by not having a healthy relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 How have your past relationships progressed? This sounds unusual, perhaps something you should even ask your doctor about. But, what sort of idea do you have of "sex" in a relationship? Or sex in general? What is it to you? Have your past relationships been based on mutual physical attraction, or on personality? How long did it take you to have sex with them before? Did you jump right to it, or did you wait a while?
Try and find clues about what it is that you do in your relationships, and how you think and act, that are similar through-out all your relationships. Perhaps that could give an idea about what it is that is happening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): How old are you? I had the same problem until I grew up a little. I hit a point that what I wanted changed.
Sexual attraction will always leave. If that is your number 1 reason to be with someone just expect it to end soon.
If you meet someone that you have great sex with, but you like them the rest of the time as well, you will not lose attraction.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Well i think your best bet would be to go and see a therapist. Because it might actually be that you are addicted to sleeping with different woman. I think the best option for you is to talk to someone professional and tell them everything. Its possible that you just like the thrill of new things and therefore when you are with someone then it gets boring to you after a while even if you love them. Id say you are just excited about new people. But am sure some day you would like to settle down therefore now is the time to go and see someone about this problem and hopefully they can help you along the way.
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