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writes: I am 18 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I'm very open about everything, and I always say whatever I think. I value people for being different, though sometimes I feel I have an impatient and rushed personality. Maybe that's why I can't get any guys to like me with that kind of traits.Ever since I was 14 I became friends with mostly guys, but then mostly they went off to college or they called me good friends but did not want to "GET TOGETHER" in a relationship.I don't think I'm that fat or plagued with acne (5'6", 144 lbs, no acne, ever).I don't know why it's like this... I've never even had any one night stands or anything, friends with beenfits or anything like that. I never wanted those, but I'm still surprised that nothing more has ever happened to me. Several of my neighbors had been saying the same stuff... I went to speak to them, and some people that work at clothing stores (since I do go out a lot, usually by myself or with family).My parents and family would never pressure me into these kinds of things. It is something I had decided to look for in myself one day. My dad did not have a girlfriend until he was 22 or 23 years old, but then again he had come from Southeast Asia and usually people there don't value dating and instead, marry and get what they get to the first person in opposite gender they meet (I'm pretty sure some people with parents from Asia can understand what I mean).I know that I would take care of myself. I'm starting to take my second year at community college in one month. I can't stop feeling so isolated and confused about all of my social and romantic issues. I've been at the community college for nearly a year now and I've found that, like people say about some schools, making friends just isn't that easy here. People tend to be anywhere from 22-40 in my classes, and it was like that when I started off, too.I just feel insecure and useless now because I can't keep a friendship for more than a month and I can't seem to make anybody really interested in me... I haven't found the right person to follow.I'm a devoted Christian and am planning to remain a virgin until marriage, so I know that nothing too bad can go wrong with my future relationships - I won't have sex with the guys or anything.Any tips? Ideas? Is there some magic lotion that I can wear to make people want me? Just kidding, I know it's not so easy.Thanks.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 The fact that you are virgin and plan to stay one until you are married is probably why most guys are not sticking around. Sorry but its the truth. If you are a devoted christian then you are better off hanging out with guys in the devoted christian 'circles', who will value and understand your beliefs. Besides you are still young and sound like a pretty smart lady so you shouldn't worry too much about finding a boyfriend just continue to have fun, do the things you enjoy, make new friends and sooner or later the guy who is meant for you will come along.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 "I feel I have an impatient and rushed personality."
That statement of yours could sum up everything. Have you look around this site, or around your friends and see how many people have problems with boy friends, or husbands???
Is this what you are rushing for? Be glad right now you don't have some of these problems as the rest of us. Some of us would gladly trade what we have to be single or to have never met a certain person, or would have waited and been more carefull of who we choose.
You can't rush love...just let it come when it's ready.
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