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writes: Dear Cupid,I have Crushes on guys, but I can't make myself do anything to send them the message that I have a crush on them. I've had 2 so far and I think that since I was born a virgin that I'll growup a virgin, live my entire life a virgin and die a virgin.Am I wrong? HELP! DESPERATE 9TH GRADER
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reader, Bev Conolly +, writes (4 May 2005):
Maybe you're just going about this in reverse order. What if, instead of desperately trying to get the attention of boys you have a crush on, you developed a crush on a guy who already knows and likes you?Try getting involved in clubs and sports at school (and outside of school) that have members of both sexes, because one excellent way to get the attention of boys is to be good at something that they're interested in too. Think about your interests and even things you *might* be interested in learning about. Then look around, join up in a club or a sport and be sociable with other people. Once you're friends with a group of guys, it's so much easier to feel comfortable around them! And when you feel comfortable and get to know someone, that's when you start finding mutual attractions.As to the virginity thing... Hon, I strongly suspect you're going to be in the majority of humanity and eventually lose yours between the ages of 15-25 (unless you make a decision to stay a virgin). And if not, think of the money to be made hiring yourself out as a virgin sacrifice! What's a few volcanoes between friends? (I'm kidding.)You'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2005): Dear Desperate Ninth Grader, I would say that it is a good thing that the guys you like don't know you have crushes on them. Every time I have had a crush on a boy, my friends always tell them. Believe me, that scares the guys off if they know you like them! I've learned that the hard way. Play it cool. And don't worry about dying a virgin. You'll lose your virginity when the time is right.Best wishes,Sarah
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