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writes:I'm 15 and am currently dating an 18yr old boy. But my family wont accept him because he is going to be the father of my sisters baby. I started sleeping with him when she was with him but then she caught us and dumped him. She's also moved away to have the baby so i don't see the problem...we love each other and i think she's hooked up with an older guy anyway which is better for the baby. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): I actually can totally see why your parents won't accept your boyfriend. He has come into this family and played both of their daughters, made one pregnant then CHEATED on her with her own sister! Turned their own daughters against each other. What's to like?? He sounds very loathsome.
And they love you because you are their daughter and they will ALWAYS love you. But what you have done to your sister is despicable. Your sister is your blood and she will ALWAYS be there for you. No man will EVER do for you half the things that your sister would do for you in her lifetime. If you grow old or sick and you no longer are appealing to this creep, you know who is going to love you unconditionally and be by your side FOREVER?? Not him! Your family is!
I truly believe that you are going to realise the severity of what's happened eventually. And hopefully you can all eventually find forgiveness in eachother's hearts and pull through this.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 The thing that is wrong here is that you have absolutely no sense of loyalty. The next time someone betrays YOU, it will be your karma haunting you for what you have done to your sister. Until you dump him and apologize to your sister and beg her forgiveness, I think the rest of your family is doing the right thing by not accepting your poor choices and behavior.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 December 2007):
 Apart from being underage to be having sex in the first place, you have betrayed your sister by sleeping with her guy. I can see why your parents won't accept him, truth be told i don't think there is many parents that would. Ultimately you are dating you niece/nephew's father, and that just spells COMPLICATION!!!! and your parents can see this. I know its not what you want to hear but i think you should drop him and move on.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): There's nothing wrong with a 15 year old dating an 18 year old so long as it is only dating!! Because him having sex with you is illegal - though sadly lots of other people have sex before they are 16...
I do however think it is unfair and wrong for you to have been sleeping with him when he was with your sister - sorry. It was betraying her trust and why did you want to be with your bf when you know that he has cheated on your sister. Did you never consider the fact that she may have loved him too - or did you just think that you love him more than anyone else could, so you had to be together?? Sorry, but that's a little bit selfish.
No offence ment or anything - but...how do you know he's not going to cheat on you if he's already cheated on your sister.
It wasn't fair on your sister - have you asked your mum and dad exactly why they won't accept you two going out together?? Maybe that would help you see their side of things if you talked to them... Does your sister still talk to you - and have you apologised to her for this??
I think you really need to sort this thing out.
x x x
btw - I was trying to be gentle with this, so sorry if it sounds like some kind of lecture.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (22 December 2007):
 There's EVERYTHING wrong with this situation, you betrayed your sister by sleeping with the father of her baby. He is older than you, it's against the law at 16 to have sex with an minor. This boy and you are sick
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