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writes:My boyfriend and I had been in a relationship since 13 months. The past three months, we had started fighting a lot. And the week before he broke up with me, I had brought up break up since he would fight on everything. But the fights never lasted more than a day or two. We loved each other crazy. One week he wouldn't meet me and he would go begging me to meet him. His cousin, brother, sister, mom they all knew about me and so did my mom.. He seemed serious. But now he broke up saying he can't go on like this. A e my mistake was that the whole month and a week I had been begging him talking about th past thinking he would get back but surprisingly he gets more annoyed he told me not to bring the last saying 'the promises don't remain anymore it's better you moe on I hope you find someone who will stay with you forever' I asked him if we could be friends and he said yes but he ignores me.. A lot. He hasn't replied me, nor ever texts me after these 5-6 weeks.. I text him every single day.. Maybe I shouldn't have.. Please help me out. I love him moe than anything. I want him back whatever it takes. I can't move on. I don't want you to tell me to move on cause I really love him. And he did too. We were inseparable. Talking to each other all the time.. He trusted me like no one else... I've tried .. . I can't move on. I have tried to make him meet me. Went to a place where he was but he just ignored me saying he can't meet me cause his fends are there. It was an excuse. Whenever I ask him to meet he agrees and then at the end moment cancels it. And lately he said he doesn't want to meet me and waste time cause I would discuss the things he doesn't want to talk about.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 March 2013):
 thanks to the last poster... NO I do not want the OP to hurt anyone... I was trying to get her to see that she won't do ANYTHING...
It's so hard to be 16 and have your heart breaking...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2013):
OP you said "I don't want you to tell me to move on cause I really love him. I want him back whatever it takes."
Ok I won't tell you to move on. You're not going to listen anyway... So let's say that the only way to get him back was to make a sacrifice..... a human sacrifice... you will do ANYTHING to get him back right?
You say you want him back WHATEVER it takes right?
Ok you have to kill your mom and dad and all your brothers and sisters. That's THE ONLY way to get him back.
Are you still willing to do it? NO? but you said you would do WHATEVER it takes because you LOVE him so much.
You love him more than anything right?
You want him to be happy right?
Ok if you truly love him... that means no matter what you want him happy. Are you with me so far?
When you truly TRULY LOVE someone no matter what they want you want them happy. That means if they will be happier without you... you WALK AWAY because you LOVE THEM and want them happy....
So what's more important to you having him even if he does not want to be had or him being happy?
SIDE NOTE:
To those folks who don't know my style.. I'm trying to show the OP she's being a bit of a 16 yr old drama queen by saying she'll do anything to have him back. She does not want to hear that it's not going to happen so I'm just trying to be supportive and answer her question.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (21 March 2013):
You're 16 - I know it seems like the end of the world because the emotions are so new to you. Trust me, its not. In fact, in 10 years you will regret every moment you spent wallowing over this guy. Not a guess.
Move on and forget him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2013):
 It's only been 5-6 weeks since the break up and you have been CONSTANTLY hounding him for contact, OF COURSE you can't move on.
YOU need to respect his wishes. He DOESN'T WANT to talk to you, he doesn't WANT to date you. I know that sounds harsh, but you NEED to face reality.
STOP texting him, stop calling him. STOP PLEADING and begging. Accept that he ISN'T the one for you.
Once that happens you will have an easier (not going to be super easy, but easier) time in moving on.
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