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writes:Hi,I met my girlfriend 2 weeks after we had been chatting on the internet. It was love at first sight and we both had the best day of our lives, it felt like we had both known eachother all our lives. We lived 100 miles from one another, and the first 6 months were magical. The distance started to put a strain on the relationship and we started to agrue alot, after a year we were arguing all the time, it was getting a bit much, but we continued the relationship as we were still very much in love. On the night we broke up, she got drunk and we had a massive argument, she punched me in the face! followed by saying "F*****g come on then you c**t!" I was shocked, this was done in front of her 14 year old son. I walked out the door and never heard anything from her since, that was 10 months ago.We'd split up 3 times before and all 3 times it was me that called her and got back with her. But this was the fourth time, and I left and never heard anything again. We was together for 18 months, and it still hurts now, I've haven't stopped crying for 10 months! I probably feel like so many others, that I will never love anyone like this girl, but surely I deserve better? She never called to say sorry or tried to make contact me because she is just too stubborn. I feel like I need answers, but I won't contact her and I'm finding it extremly difficult to move on.Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.Thanks in advance,:)
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reader, xxandyxx +, writes (3 January 2009):
xxandyxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe last couple of days have been really difficult, I've cried quite alot when I thought there were no more tears to cry, but I have just logged back in and read your comments which made me smile for the first time in ages, and they were both very reassuring. Once again thank you for your help and advice, it's great to know there's people out there who have the time to help out.:)
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reader, xxandyxx +, writes (30 December 2008):
xxandyxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey...lots of people in this boat! People try and tell you to think of the bad times but you can do nothing but think of the good times. But try to think of the bad times, and think of the good things you have in your life RIGHT now. I keep telling myself that she was my soul mate, well if she/he was your soul mate, how comes your not together now? My ex-girlfriend was constantly swearing, shouting and so jealous. These are all the ingredients for disaster. There is someone out there lying in the wings, for me, and you too.
Hope this helps and to hear from you soon.
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reader, xxandyxx +, writes (30 December 2008):
xxandyxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHiya,
First of all, I would like to thank you both for your speedy replies, I wasn't expecting something that quick!
I have spoken to many different friends and family about this break up, and they all have said not to contact her. And for two complete strangers to say the same, I'm going to stick to my guns and move on. I have tried so many different scenarios on why she hit me, maybe I scared her becuase I shouted at her so hard and loudly? I have said in my head lots of "ifs" and "buts" but you just can't justify anybody hitting ANYONE. I said to her, "You've been hit in past relationships and you hit me?" to which she replied "Yeah? Yeah! And I'll f***ing do it again as well"
I thought, no you won't because I'm off! I left and although it hurt, I'm trying my best to move on, and I thank you both for your time to write to me on here.
Hope ot hear from you soon,
:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I am in the same boat as you right now. I am so depressed and all i have been doing is crying. I want him to come back to me. He told me we arent meant to be and i deserve someone better. And i did nothing wrong. Its the holidays once again and i have no one. I am so lonely and sad. Like my friend told me you need to hope for the worst and then if something then does happen you will be pleased. I need help and advice as well.
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 You are doing the right thing in not contacting her.
It seems that your relationship was a volatile, destructive one. Although you want closure, sometimes by her not contacting you that is the closure you have to accept. That she doesn't love and respect you enough to continue on with the relationship. Yes it hurts, but love hurts. You have no choice but to move on. Although you feel like you will never love anyone again. Believe it or not, someone will come along and you will have strong feelings for that person. Maybe not the same type of feelings, but it'll be strong.
What's important is to know that a relationship should be loving and caring between two people. So in 18 short months, you guys broke up 4 times, i'd say this relationship was drama filled. i say forget her. She's no good for you. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better.
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