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writes:my first ever relationship was to say the least... dramatic. I was 16 and he was 21. We started for the first 4 months well, but he was always controlling, he then moved to Canada as his mother there got a brain tumour. We were together for 2 years in which he was possessive, controlling, jealous, never giving me any attention and banned me from going out, seeing my friends. I planned to move over there and not apply to university where I lived and go to Canada for university to be with him. He had cheated on me before but I didn't think it would happen again. Eventually I realised he was treating me so terribly... and whenever anyone said he did I was just so defensive and I lost most of my friends and my family as I was so set on following him. I went there in April while I was meant to be studying for exams only to find out he had been cheating on me again... the volcano in iceland then blew up so i couldn't get back home. He showed me his violent side... I was physically pushed and sometimes he forced me to have sex... he then physically kicked me out of his own house in the country i didn't even know at 17 yrs old. I was forced to have my 18th birthday there and go home much later when the volcanic ash cleared up. Since then I tried very hard to keep him with me but also being upset about the way he treated me. I sent him things in the mail, tried my best but it wasn't enough as he was less interested every day. I felt so used... like a dog. Obviously it ended very badly... I still wanted him. It's been a month and a half since the break up and I can't stop crying over him. Despite the fact he was so awful to me... controlling, violent, abusive and he upset me and hurt me in so many ways. I still feel in love with him. I was almost like his play-thing for 2 years. I would fly over there when he wanted, do everything he wanted. I was meant to move to canada, Instead I have to stay here and have a year off. I feel like i've been done a great injustice as I was treated so incredibly badly by him and tried so hard. I am now 18, he is 23. We don't speak although I heard from him 4 days ago when I emailed him desperately... as I always have done. How can I move forward from him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Well, I think that after since he moved to Canada as his mother had a brain tumour as you said, I think maybe that whats changed him. Or maybe something else.
Btw, I'm sorry for my last answer if it sound too harsed. I, didn't meant it. I thought I might hurt you a bit there. I'm sorry. I'm sorry to hear about it too.
I know it is hard to overcome this feeling. So what do you think? Are you going to ask him to be at your side once more? Or are you trying to let it go?
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reader, skittlesg23 +, writes (2 August 2010):
skittlesg23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you...
i am meant to be with someone else as well... he treats me like a princess and truly cares about me... but all i can think about is my ex. I cry when he kisses me... I wish it was him who cared for me that much.. and was telling me how important i was. I really don't know what to do about it.
I realise i am not ready for a relationship again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): I'm so sorry to hear this. It's totally a disaster to say.I had the same feeling as you too so I know how you feel.I also had mine, it is still going on but not in a good way.So, lets talk about yours.I hope that you should to stop loving him. Why? Because he doesn't deserve your love after the fact that you have done all sorts of ways to get his heart. But he ignores it. This is not good for you.I hope that you just forget him, carry on with your life. I hopefully pray that you will find the one that really cares and love you so much someday and I believe you can archive it.So, stay strong, get into positive thinking, tomorrow is always a new day, a new day with full of hope, who knows you might get you luck by tomorrow? Hoping is also not enough, you will need to seek for it.Good Luck!
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