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writes:Been with my boyfriend for about 5 months. Completely happy with him and like things how they are. But there is just one thing, when I am giving him a handjob I can't make him cum. He takes ages and my arm ends up aching before he does so he gets frustrated so I stop. I really want to make him feel good like what he does to me and I feel guilty for not finishing it off.Any advice? x
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (29 November 2010):
It is much harder to make a bloke cum by giving him a hand job than it is giving him a blow job.
You basically need to find out which way he prefers it. Some like tight grips and fast, some slow and light grips, some mix of the two, some higher up the penis, some lower etc.
The other thing you need to remember is he's been used to a certain way he does himself, probably for a few years. It would also be helpful for you to find out roughly how long it can take him.
However it, might not just be down to the way you give him a hand job. Little extra things like gently playing with his balls or the undercarriage (bit of flesh between end of balls and bum hole) that could push him over the edge.
Each bloke is different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): It's almost certainly not anything you are doing wrong!
Truth is most men take a very long time to come through a hand job alone - purely because they are so used to doing it themselves for years and years on end that the sensation is more familiar than, say, a blow job, or sex. Think about how the first time a man has sex he will normally come really quickly, but after he gets used to the sensation he will last much longer - think about how much more true this is going to be for a hand job, which is something he's been able to get since he was about twelve years old!
To be honest, I think it's a mistake to get too hung up on making him come through a hand job alone - it'll just stress you out unecessarily - start off by using your hands, then when you get tired move on to a blow job. He'll enjoy it just as much, if not a lot more.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (28 November 2010):
Actually making a guy cum by a handjob isn't as easy as it seems, so don't feel too bad. It's easy for him because he knows what he's feeling and what he needs. So try to get more feedback from him. Ask him to tell you when he's close, or if you need to hold it more firmly or what rhythm is good. Also, maybe more foreplay before and during, or some dirty talk would help. You can also get him to guide your hand a bit to show you what's the best way to do it.
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reader, alex74  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 It may be awkward, but ask him to masturbate in front of you. "Take notes" on his technique. Another question to ask is: "How long does it take him to satisfy himself?" It may not completely be because of your technique.
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