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female
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anonymous
writes:Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for four years he is 21 and im 18, we started dating a week after we met because he tried everyday and no one had ever done that essentially basically everyone told him i was way out of his league but my friends insisted maybe i should try dating a nerdy guy rather than the jerks i had before so when we started dating he was always complimenting other girls i wasn't sure it was normal til he started commenting how other chicks looked or dressed better than me(more revealing) and this made me really insecure so i left him but he went berserk almost committing suicide and locking himself in a room for 2 days, so i went back with him for pity and he stopped being that way but i became so insecure and always thought he was checking out other girls so i became psycho jealous and didnt let him have girl friends and i was always checking his phone ect..we kept braking up and getting back together mainly on his part but i always found out about stuff he did he acted so sweet but i found out he was talking to girls or doing other things and i would go berserk and when i would go out of town he even went so far as to askin a friend of mine on a date well but i forgave him since she rejected..but now for the fourth time of us getting together after i found out that he was talking to girls behind my back (as in flirting and asking them to hang out) ive become a lot less jealous because my mom always said it was mostly my fault we broke up. i let him go out but now he doesnt want to and i don't check his stuff but i feel so unhappy im always doubting him and asking him questions and i never believe a word he says because when were together there was not one time he kept his promises or he told the truth honestly not ONE time about anything.Since i got with him my life centered on him everyone stopped being my friend after they found out i was so jealous or if i got new friends after i stopped being that jealous they stopped being my friends cause i never had time for them or they thought i was stupid for never listening and kept going back to him..he does nothing wrong or at least i dont think but i am not happy and every time i try and leave him now he seems like he doesn't care and i find myself just being like jk..or wanting to see him because im so lonely. idk what to do i try making friends but none care enough to help me through this..What can i do or what should i do? i do feel like i like him but not love him and every time everything seems great in our relationship i find out of something he lied to behind my back even stupid things it's really not what he does but that he lies all the time it drives me insane and i find myself doubting and even get annoyed of myself asking him all these questions all the time like " are you lying " or is there anything you need to tell me because i feel like i want to prepare myself of what im going to find out since everytime something is great i find out..i just dont know what to do..:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): If my calculations are right you started dating when you were 14 and now you are 18. Basically, the relationship is rocky and not worth hanging on to. You were a child when you started out with him. You have now grown up and out grown each other. End it with him. Your friends will drift back once he is off the scene. Your confidence will grow. And you can meet other guys. There is no point agonizing about a relationship that is not happy and clearly has no future. You are clinging on for fear of the unknown. Be brave, you have not been without a boyfriend through your teens but really give yourself a chance to blossom and meet a guy who really appreciates you.
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