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writes: God Help me. I've done it again...I'd been seeing my husband's friend a few times and though there was kissing we never had sex and about a month ago we agreed to stop.however because we all socialise in the same group things were difficult and we found ourselves still flirting and texting each other. This drove me nuts!!so today, knowing my husband would be out all night I asked my "friend" to come over so we could talk face to face and get things straight. this was going to stop..it had to.He came round,we had a talk over glass of cola and still ended up kissing!! This time it went further tho although he didnt "penetrate" it was a very close call.Why am I doing this? I'm married!! I have children!! I dont want to lose that so why do I keep putting myself in this position? we had a chat after and came to the conclusion that we had to sever all ties..i was only going to go out once a month with my husband and this group( not to go at all would cause suspicion) and the other evenings I was only going out with my husband.I have no self-control! What is wrong with me? I'm a tart..I feel so terrible that i wanted him so much!! I still want him..if he texted me again i would go weak!!How can I stop this from happening again? I am in desperate need of help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2006): Boesky,yes i do love my husband....i dont know if i'm in love with him tho..does that make sense?i think maybe things are just too mundane.
when i'm with my friend we both know its wrong and constantly tell each other that but it never seems to stop us.My Friend/lover knows he should say no but he's always the first in contacting me again and even tho we've agreed not to carry on neither of us can help it.
He told me last night that he wants someone like me who is bubbly and sexy(I dont think i am)and that he too has fancied me for years,the only thing that was stopping him was his friendship with my husbaand!!
How can we stop when its tearing us BOTH up inside?
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 haha loving the first answer i dont know how to help you im in the same situation with my boyfriends best mate and i dont think god can help me or any1 else for that matter
we are weak woman bein driven by sexual attraction
u cant stop it becoz you want it even though you know its wrong thats half the attraction it will all end in tears no doubt but join the club x x
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reader, Boesky +, writes (6 July 2006):
You are so not alone! Mine's slightly different, but the "wanting" and "can't-having" is just as intense (I'm the married man out of love with my wife, in love with another). I can't judge you at all but I guess you have to ask yourself this: Do you love your husband still? (otherwise those nights will be tortuous!), how much of a friend is this man to your husband? (surely he must take some of the guilt!). As for any other help - sorry I'm as screwed as you are, but I hope you find an answer... x
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reader, ms.willing2006 +, writes (6 July 2006):
you know you call on the right person god you need to pray plead the blood of jesus. girl that friend is nothing but the devil. when he text you just don't respond to it. you need to ask god to deliver you from those cheating spirits and just believe that he will do just that. you need to talk to your husband and put everything in the open he want lose a friend because he was never his friend to have his wife prayer do changes things pray about and let god speak to your heart before you tell your husband
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