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30-35,
anonymous
writes:we've been dating for just about 7 months now and well...I can't help but feel jealous that this one girl keeps calling my bf or he keeps calling her. He knows that I don't like him hanging out with her and talking to her. I've talked to him many times about how I don't like them hanging out...(they met through a friend) and a reason why I dont like the girl in the first place is because theres been times where he just 'ditched' me for her and when him and his friend and her go out...i always end up seeing pictures of THEM together....its true you can say i'm jealous but why is she allowed to get more attention than me and i'm just thrown to the side?Although he does say to me that he 'loves' me, he doesnt feel that way about those other girls and that they are not as 'pretty' that I am. I don't know how much of that I can actually believe...I mean, he kept it a secret from me to 'not hurt my feelings' that he went out to hang out with the girl i dont like, their mutual friend(girl) and his other friend (guy). I was really upset with that and I told him I wanted him to tell me the truth next time. I don't want to keep on nagging him about this but I still feel that he doesn't completely know how I feel and how much it bothers me. How do I tell him that in another way so that he doesnt feel nagged at?Please help me.
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 You have told him how you feel about the other girls and he still goes out with them so that tells you he doesn't respect you enough to stop hanging out with them. Now if they have been friends for years and years, it would be different but that doesn't sound like the situation in this case.You can do much better and have a guy who is mainly there for you and will respect you.Best wishes!
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reader, crownedprincess  +, writes (29 April 2008):
Hiya!
I relaly thinkg you should sit down and tell him exacly
how you feel again!!
what you've got to remember that men dont see things the
same as us!! he may not be doing this to hurt you he may
just see this as she is my friend and thats it! i know
me n do you head in but that really could be what it is!
dont ask me why men dont understand it as i dont know!
and i can tell you now 9 times out of 10 will choose his
mates over his girlfriend so i wouldnt get too hot headed
at him as it will make him distant!
just talk to him again with out any screaming and shouting
and see how it goes if you still are not happy then you
know what to do!!
gooe luck x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 April 2008):
You've made it pretty clear that him seeing this girl upsets you. He's carried on seeing her and that to me says he doesn't care about your feelings.
The whole "you're prettier than her" thing is so stupid I could slap him. He has a close connection with her, it doesn't have to be about having someone "pretty".
Tell him straight that you don't want him seeing her any more as they are obviously close and you don't want to share him.
If he does see her again or keeps contact then he can't give her up and you should just walk out on him with your head held high. He's an idiot if he's willing to risk losing you.
Go out with your friends and find someone who only wants you in the world.
Good Luck!! xx
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