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writes:A relative of mine is very sucessful and has his own company and he has a gorgeous huge house here in the uk and 1 abroad.Also he owns high spec cars.I am very proud of him for what he has achieved but i cant help but feel jelous.I shouldnt be jelous as i live (with my parents)in a big house and we have nice cars but not compared with what he has.I have a good job and a wonderful boyfriend and he has a great job but he could earn so much more-he has been applying for other jobs but isnt getting much luck.I envy my cousins wife and kids as they have what i want-they have it so easy.I dont want to spend the rest of my life having to work full time and i often think about how easy it would be just to marry someone for money and live the life of luxury-after all life is short-why not enjoy it?I know i sound so materialistic and horrible and i hate myself for even thinking like this as i know money doesnt buy happiness etc but im so envious.I hope this phase of mine passes.Has anyone else felt like this?Any advice would be great.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Hi
It's interesting that you can here your TRUE self speaking to you, telling you that you shouldn't be thinking like that. Maybe it would be good to listen to you, and choose that pathway in life or the other marrying richness without love, which is not your true self and will be Probably easy and lots of frivolity etc but it will eventually make you feel unfulfilled. You may be quite content for most of your life but nearing the latter years it would not be a nice feeling knowing it was an empty pathway you walked in your life without real love.
However you may have both one day.
I hope you listen to the real you more ..because that is where you will find the real richness, happy life pathways.
Good luck on your journey.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 You have to remember that the richest person in the world is the one that is truely happy.
I remember I had read a story a long time ago. It was this man that could afford anything. He was so rich that he could live without working the rest of his life and still have money enough to serve every little desire he had. But he was miserable. Then one day he saw this old,wise man and he asked him what he could do to truely be happy, and the old, wise man told him the only way he could was to get the shirt from the happiest man in the world.
So he began his journey. He first started from the richest, but saw only envy, greed, and unhappiness in them. He went down to those who had a seemingly good life, but they had the same things the rich had. He even went to look for the poor, and yet he saw the same trend. He went around the world, through air and ocean and earth and could find nobody that was truely happy.
One day, his boat crashed and he was rescued by this fisherman. He had a small house, but big enough to keep him, his wife, and his seven kids safe from anything that nature brought them. The man was generous, selfish, and loving. After much though, he finally had completed his goal. He found the happiest man in the world, but to his disgrace, this man did not pocess a shirt, not even a rag.
This is when he realized that happiness wasn't brought by what you possesed but what you did for others and who you were. He learned this lesson and he thanked the man and ever since he felt truely happy. He learned to appreciate his life and respect it and after this he never felt any sense of negative feelings that stoped him from seeing clear.
Now, getting in the road to true happiness is a hard one, but not impossible. It's a fact that in our society we need money to buy some things that makes us good and the more money you have the more nice things you can buy, but in the end they're just things. I know a spanish say that says "Even when the monkey is dressed in silk, it's still a monkey" (The best translation I could come up...sorry). What this saying means is that no matter how much you want to mask your misery, you're still miserable. Money can as well mask this, but this doesn't take the fact that not many are happy.
Hope this helped a bit.
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