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female
age
30-35,
*eacelovecandy
writes:I can't get over my teacher.You just don't know...I always dream about him!He won't get out of my head. It's hard for me to listen to him teach when all I do is stare at him. It's hard to concentrate when I'm doing my work in his class because I'm always looking at him. He makes this really cute face and it makes me laugh. (I have an A in there, though, so no worries with bad grades!)I am soo stressed about this. I know it can never be and I HATE THE FACT that it can't! I'm only 14 and would have to probably wait a few more years if I ever wanted to tell him I liked him. I had a crush on my science teacher before this teacher, but that went away once I switched to my current teacher's class. They were two different crushes.. I didn't really look at my science teacher or think about him, I just thought he was cute. But this teacher... oh boy I think about him all the time! When I hear Jason Mraz's music I think of him because he listens to similar music. He plays songs in class with words like "you're going to miss her when she's gone" and it gets me thinking. Is he going to miss me when I'm gone? I don't want to stop liking him, because it makes me feel (in a way) good. He's very very nice to me and I always stay after class to get extra help or to run some errands for him. He moved me up to the front of the class near where he usually talks or stands, and it makes it so much easier for me to look at him. The whole front row across is boys except for me. I know how wrong it is and I know the consequences (so please don't nag at me about what could happen) but I really wish I could be with him. While still liking him is there a way to make myself feel better?I get depressed sometimes because I know I can't be with him though I want to so bad. In my opinion, he is really the most gorgeous man I've ever seen! My friends all say he's not cute and that I'm crazy but they just don't get it. He's always so cheeky and smiley and sweet. I always assure my friends that they are very unfortunate to have him, even though they think their teacher is 100x better. He's not an old man, he's in his 20's. I ask again, please don't nag at me with things I already know such as he could get fired, he could report me, etc. I thought about going to the guidance counselour, but that's my teacher's brother. I really don't want to be with any other guy except for him. I don't care about age differences. He is A-MAZ-ING! Thanks in advance and OH please please please don't yell at me (no need to) or tell me I need to get over him, because listen, I don't want to get over him, even if it hurts! Don't tell me it's going to go away, because no one is sure of that. Don't tell me negative things, I'm not looking for those kind of answers.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Here's some research material for the essay: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence
Perhaps we're judging you too harshly. Perhaps it is a condition that needs some attention?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 March 2009):
Hey, tell you what. Instead of you telling us what we CAN'T say to you because you're not interested in hearing anything from anybody, why don't you write an essay.
One of my observations of 14 year old girls is that they don't think things through very well. Do you care to try to prove me wrong? I'll bet you can't manage to work through the situation to what the consequences would be. You're in a teenage hormonal daze, I'll bet and can't manage to think straight!
Prove me wrong. Tell us what the consequences of your various potential actions would be. You're above the age of reason, you can think for yourself and make decisions for yourself, right? So show me that you can think like an adult and write that essay.
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reader, mzconception  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 I remember saying that last paragraph you wrote to my own mum, thinking no one in the world understood how i felt when i had a crush!
The reason we don't want to hear these things is that we know full well they are true and it's what we are secretly thinking anyway isn't it? We just dont want it to be true coz it sucks!
But your clever you know the reality, it's great having a crush on someone and your right it does feel nice, gives you butterflies in the pit of your stomach as long at it remains a crush and not an obession.
The thing is when something is "forbidden" it's always more exciting, so rather than just ignoring peoples opinions, i would say keep your crush just keep it "healthy" and don't be in a rush to find out too much more about your teacher if you want to keep them nice feelings going, because if you do all you will find out in the end is that the intrigue has gone and in the end he is just another man same as the rest.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (11 March 2009):
 You know our answers are going to be negative so why post such a long drawn out essay, we've answered this question for you before.
I tell you what, tell him him you love him and that you never want to be with anyone else and just prove us all wrong!
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