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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i need some help. me and my girlfriend broke up because she said she didnt love me anymore. but eventhough its been 3 to 4 months now, i'm still hung up over her and i miss her everyday. i got so upset each day over the summer and i just want her back.and recently she got together with someone else who had been there throughout our relationship and he knew that i had been getting upset over her. i wasn't that close to him, but i still consideered him a friend and now i have to see him everyday at work. i try to steer clear of him but he jsut reminds me of what i dont have anymore.yet i feel hurt by him eventhough i think i probably should admit that my girlfriend has moved on without me. should i still feeel this hatred i feel towards him?i do wish we could be friends but its hard for me and i don't think i could handle it.but i dont know what to do because my friends are also their friends and i havent been going out because im afraid of bursting into tears. am i wrong for doing this?what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): The break up has resulted in loneliness and feeling of inadequacy. Isolation from social life will only intenify your grief. It is not wise to abandon your social life for a faded love.
It has been almost four months after the break up, I believe any attempt of winning her back will only provoke mutual supicion and jealousy between you and your colleagues. Losing a girl who mean so much to you is hard enough. I guess you don't want to deteriorate your interpersonal relationship, right?
Resist the urge to weep. If you don't behave normally, you will only put yourself in a vulnerable position. The right person will come along one day. So don't lose yourself to an unrequited love.
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