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writes:Is it possible to be in love with 2 people? I'm in my early twenties, married with three kids and i love my husband more than anything but i also have strong feelings for our friend , he does allot of family things with us, e.g putting kids toys together Christmas eve , i cant get him off my mind (help)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim very grateful for the advice you've all given ,followed it for a while 2 then 4 weeks ago i did something stupid , took things a little 2 far with my friend ,its happend twice since and now filled with guilt and hurting like hell cos ive stopped seeing my mate all together so nothing can happen again , dont want 2 lose my hubbie but wish i didnt have 2 give up my mate but i know theres no other way , do u think im right
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionid like 2 say thanks , u all talk alot of sence and i know your right but its gona take time to get him out of my system , alot of time , god he told my today he got new girlfriend and i thought i was gona cry , how stupid am i , i need to sort my head out cos i know hes out of bounds .
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 You can be in love with many but there is only one whom you will love with all your heart.
You can love them as a friend or as a relative and nothing more.
If you constantly think of him and cannot get him out of your mind, that is an obsession. This is not real love. Know your boundaries and limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
He is a good person who has come into your lives and has made an impression on you as he has a kind heart love, You can love someone and still be married and inlove, Maybe you are just thinking like this as he is the first man apart from your husband who is thoughtfull and caring, I have a friend who I love to bits he is around all the time and if we are out you would sometimes think he is my fella but no he is my best mate and I really love him, Not in the way Im inlove with my b/f though, I hope this helps hunny TAKE CARE OF YOU LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, kenny +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I guess it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time, but be careful that you are not mistaking this feeling as love when in actual fact it is lust. Love tends to be more longer term, and lust is more short lived and fades away over time. I would be inclined to put it down to lust and let these feelings die out over the natural course of time. Don't act on these feelings you are having, if you do it could lead to alot of unessessary heartache further down the line. Try to put these feelings out of your mind and focus your attention on your husband and your children. Just tell yourself that these are stupid thoughts you are having about your friend, and that nothing could ever happen.
Good luck x
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