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writes:I've been with a guy for about a month, we got on really well and he helped me more than anyone else after what happened with my last boyfriend, I really like him and I think he's amazing but I just can't get away from him sometimes, I feel trapped now, I've tried breaking up a couple of times but whenever I hint at something he tells me how in love he is and then I can't seem to get it out, I don't want to hurt him, and if I can then I want to remain friends, I know that I can't keep him on like this because its not fair and being friends afterwards may be impossible, but how do I tell him? Thanks guys Lexi xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 February 2010):
Ah sorry, with all the bad ex boyfriend problems you hear on here, you just start to assume.
I think some of my advice still stands though. You just have to get it over with and tell him you don't want to be with him. It's horrible to do but you can't stay with someone because of guilt.
It's harsh but he will get over it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Alexia1991 +, writes (13 February 2010):
Alexia1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, Emily, thankyou for the advice but its not exactly a rebound, me and my last boyfriend didnt have "problems"
he passed away 6 months ago, Sorry I should have probably mentioned that in the question,
Thanks again
xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 February 2010):
He sounds like a rebound and sad though it is, you just have to get it over with.
Tell him you think it all happened too fast and you love him and think he's amazing but don't want to lie to him. You are not and will never be IN LOVE with him.
It sounds harsh but make it clear.
Men (especially the nice ones) often find vulnerable women utterly irresistible. They just want to put their arms round you and make everything better. It makes them feel great.
He deserves someone who can love him back.
If you had problems with your ex boyfriend then I'm guessing you have problems with ending relationships when they aren't right.
You need to get this sorted or you are going to KEEP ending up with horrible men and not splitting up with them.
Yes it will be horrible and you will hurt him and he will hate you for it for a while but that is life. He'll get over it and find someone new who can give him back everything he gives out.
Take a deep breath and get it over with.
Good Luck!! xx
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