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writes:I'm 15.Living in London, UK.And at this day and age people have all been in a relationship.Everyone at my school started going out with people in year 7.It didn't last, but they had relationships starting from year 7 onwards.Im going into year 11, I'm turning 16 years old in 3 months and I've never had a boyfriend, I've never been kissed, nothing.I did find a guy from my school who liked me and I liked him, we dated, didn't do anything but hug and I had an accident and he found someone else and made her his girlfriend.I keep thinking I'm never going to find anyone because I couldn't even keep a guy interested for a month.All my best friends have been in relationships that have lasted one/two years.I just don't see myself ever finding someone,and my friends are always talking about boys.Also, my 2 BEST friends (ones a guy, ones a girl) they started going out, I could see feelings developing between them.However, now i'm going to be a third wheel,and it hurts to see them so happy and seeing everyone else so happy and I haven't found anyone who can just like me.I'm not being big-headed. But all my friends are saying how I'm pretty and the guy I dated said I was pretty (he was the first guy out of my family to actually say I'm pretty) so it really did come as a shock to me, because the only guy who ever says that is either my dad or my older brother.But the guy who dated me just found someone else and asked her to be his girlfriend so quickly.It just hurts alot.Sorry for the long post.I'm just not sure what to do.Thank youx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): first of all.i feel and am the same way..i've been kissed but we didnt go out,i went on a date but the guy was obbsessed wit me..and i'm single too but i've learnd that when u have fun and flirt and enjoy life uu might find someone if u look and dont do anything about it and try too hard its gonna end up bad..so i'm just enjoying life tryiing to forget about whos in the relationship and whos not
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Hiya!
Speaking from personal experience: I had my first boyfriend at the beginning of year 11. At first I thought it was great, as I had saved my first relationship for someone who [i thought at the time] was special. We went out for a year and a half. About 2 months into the relationship we had our first kiss! It seemed like a long time but we were glad we had waited. Again this wouldn't have been so special if we would have had lots of relationships. About 7 months into the relationship, he turned nasty. I put up with awful things until I ended it at the end of January this year.
Basically I am trying to say that good things come to those who wait. Even though I thought I was old enough for a relationship at the time, I could't handle it or him. I wish I would have waited a little bit longer, as puberty is ending at 16, and hormones are all over the place etc etc etc.
Don't panic if you haven't had a boyfriend yet. There will be someone out there for you, it's just the fun part finding him! Go on dates, make friends with lots of boys and see what happens. You never know, there could be one right infront of your eyes who likes you, and you just can't see it yet...
Whatever happens, I'm sure it will be worth the wait!
Good Luck, and remember your still young, and just looking for a boyfriend, not a lifetime partner! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Stop looking, stop waiting for someone! Do you leave your house every day thinking 'i might meet someone today?' Or 'I wonder who i might meet?' - If you do you've lost all sense of who you are. Boys your age don't think about relationships like you do...It's all about physical attraction and by the sounds of things - you're not the type to go 'giving' yourself away to boys who don't care. If you do - you'll regret it in later life when you realise it wasn't worth the hassle.
Start enjoying the time with your friends, be pleased for those who are couples (even if it's obvious they care/don't care about each other). Start thinking about how to make yourself feel like a million pounds and stop waiting for a guy to do it for you. They don't anyway.
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