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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Okay so theres this boy at my school that ive had a crush on for a long while. Ive realised that im completely in love with this guy, and I pretty much think hes amazing. I cant think of anyone else id rather be with! Although the fact im so in love with him is strange because, quite frankly, hes just average. Hes not some popular hottie, I mean, he doesnt have that much confidence and although I find him extremely cute, none of my friends agree with me. I dont think hes ever had a girlfriend inside school, and I dont know if hes ever had a girlfriend outside of school either. And its so weird that im in love with this guy ive never spoken to myself, but you cant help who you fall in love with right? So heres the deal...Last year, I had no confidence - literally none. He was in some of my classes, and all he knew of me was that I was very quiet. Some of his friends used to make fun of me for being so quiet. I dont think I can ever get the courage to talk to him because he probably still thinks im just some kind of freak.Nowadays im outgoing, ive got a lot more confidence. I still think hes out of my league though, but friends tell me hes not. Im not ugly, I guess im kind of pretty. I know ive had people have crushes on me before. My best friend is really pretty and confident, so its not like I hang around with the "loserkids". However, I USED to hang around with unpopular people..Now that im decent looking and more sociable, the only problem is just that I cant find any way to talk to him. I guess my love for him could even be considered obsessive, lol - ive tried to get over him, but I cant! And dont say something like "Just say hi.", because then he'd just think im even weirder. Ive known about him for more than a year, and to just randomly say hi - well it WOULD be really random, especially coming from a girl who he only knows as someone who used to be a bit of a loner!I just cant find a reason to talk to him. I have no classes with him anymore, and no mutual friends! If I just told him straight I had a crush on him, I think he'd turn me down. Because like I mentioned, he might still think im some quiet freak. Not only that, but he used hang around with someone who made fun of me last year, and he probably cares about their opinions.And like I said before, im definitely not ugly, and I have so much confidence, and its really annoying me that I think I will never be able to talk to this guy that I like so much. Whats even more annoying is why I cannot figure out that despite me having so much confidence now, he just reminds me of the days I used to be a some freak. Hes like some kind of obstacle I have to overcome. :/Sorry for making you waste all your time reading this crap... but Im really stuck for what to do, help me! :(
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reader, PsILoveYou +, writes (31 May 2010):
 Maybe, try to get to know him better, like going to places he goes to e.g:7eleven and like eye on him or something. If he's the truelly really 100% right guy, than, in my opinion, go talk to him. You could start with helping him, picking up his books when he drops it or inviting him to a birthday party. Or you could just blutter out infront of him 'I think you're very nice...' and do the blinking eye lash thing. You could also express your feelings to your friends when you know that he is listening. The telling him the truth and blinky eye thing didn't really work for me,though.. Hope you guys make out! Good luck! :D
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