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*ymindisfree
writes:I'm having trouble deciding on whether or not I truly like this guy or not. But first let me give you some background.There's this super shy guy in a couple of my classes, however recently in the past couple months he has started to talk to me more and more. Now we talk every day, granted the conversations are breaky but you can tell he's really trying to come up with topics to talk about with me.Now, I have been wondering for a while now whether or not he liked me. The main reason being that he wouldn't talk to anyone at school at all, and now he's making such an effort to try to talk to me every day and be my friend in general. I'm pretty sure he does now. At least he gives all the signs guys give when they like a girl.In addition to me thinking he likes me, I've been getting a ton of comments from random people at school saying "Aww, you two would make such a good couple!"All this focus on a relationship has really pressured me into thinking about being with him. However, now i can't figure out if I really do like him or not.He's not all that physically attractive to me, but I do love his personality. And on top of that he's insanely smart.On top of his personality, i do enjoy talking with him, and feel extremely anxious to get to the classes we share together. I also catch myself scanning the room for him, and watching the door for when he comes into class.I'm just concerned whether all the pressure I've gotten(self imposed and peer imposed)has made me think and feel differently and whether what I'm feeling towards him is just a side effect of that or not. I just cann't figure it out.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Well, you're analyzing his signs to figure out whether he likes you and you're analyzing your signs to figure out whether you like him. That amuses me :)
Well I'd say that the self/peer imposed pressure has certainly made you THINK differently about him, but I don't know how much that would affect how you FEEL about him... If there was self/peer imposed pressure directed towards you being with somebody else in your class... would you just laugh it off, would it be a fleeting thought, would you get annoyed? Or would you...
Feel extremely anxious to get to the classes you share together. Constantly scan the room for him, and watch the door for when he comes into class. Better yet, would you come onto this website if you honestly didn't think there was a chance for something between you two...? Give it a shot you chicken :)
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