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writes:My husband stood me up while i was in labor. I'm still really upset about it. When I was in the early stage of labor (when you're just waiting for the contractions to come closer together) my husband left me alone to go out drinking with his friends. We were supposed to go to a movie, and he didn't show up for the one I wanted to see, so we went to another one and we were still late for it. It was awful because he was soo drunk he shouldn't have been driving at all let alone with me being pregnant and in labor. So we are sitting in the theater and he keeps getting up to throw up in the bathroom. One time he didn't make it and threw up on himself, me, and all over the seats. It was so embarrassing. All this while my comtractions are coming closer and closer and are more and more intense. So he goes out to the car, and I'm left to clean up the mess, and get the staff. So when i get to the car, he says that I need to drive. It was horrible. When we got home, my mom was luckily there and she took me to the hospital. My husband didn't say anything but "if you really are in labor let me know i want to be there." I was livid at that answer. He wasn't even trying to get up there until my mom called him and told him he should be there. I didn't even want him there. I told her not to call him.He has never said anything about it. But i can't believe I'm with some one who would do that to me, and I'm ready just to go. I mean could some one who does that to me really love me?And since I've had the baby he makes little comments on my body, like i really should work out more, or I can't afford to eat a cookie. And he has brought up getting me plastic surgery for my stomach and breasts. I feel like i'm in a hopeless situation. How do i get over it, or should i?
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Your mum could surely help you out with that? A friend? A relative? I think anyone would be willing to put you up for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to leave, but i don't have anywhere to go.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (20 September 2008):
 Well, this selfish man is now a father, right. Does he help you with your baby? Does he contribute to the relationship in any way at all or is he completely there for himself?
This is a man who has no clue what you just went through for him to have his baby. He needs to wise up and grow up and start treating you with some respect.
If he starts treating your child like this he will most certainly damage the childs self esteem and if he treats you like this in from on the child, the child will have no respect for you either.
Yeah, I'm thinking you should tell him to find a place to live until he can appreciate what he has at home.
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reader, Dear Danielle +, writes (19 September 2008):
 Oh and him not likin your body and wanting you to get plastic surgery id giv him a slap 4 id have his clothes in bin bags and out on the street
again good luk hunniii my heart wiv u too as well as aunty ems get him out of ur life 4 good
Danielle xox
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reader, Dear Danielle +, writes (19 September 2008):
Like wat aunty em sed about him being selfish idle pathetic and ignorent but i cud call him so much more that wouldnt be appropiate 4 this site
That has made me sick that a guy could do this to his pregnant wife you have had to cope without him supporting you in my mind thats discusting
i wouldnt even wait 4 him 2 sort his act out really id leave him good ridence id say too, your mum seems to support you more than he ever could so get rid 4 ur babys sake and 4 yours
GOOD LOOK
Danielle xox
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (19 September 2008):
What an idle, ignorant, selfish, pathetic little man you have for a husband! I swear, nothing more than your description of this rat has outraged me merely today. It's awful and my heart is with you.
What does your mum think? I'd totally will you to stay with her until your husband sorts out his act.
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