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writes:I'm fed up with my life, it just seem it isn't going nowhere and what i have is going all wrong. i have a part time job and only work two days a week and am trying to find a new job but doesn't seem to be getting nowhere. due to this have no money to do anything and am losing my friends. when every they ask me to come out or go somewhere i never have money to do this, so for the last month just been waking up and doing nothing i want to learn to drive but cant find the money to do this, its really getting me down as everyone around are moving on when I'm not going nowhere. also me and my boyfriend are going thought such a rough patch and decided to have a couple of days to think, but he has said to me he doesn't think its going to work out and then i argued with my parents and they aren't talking to me to.everything is going wrong nothing is working out for me, i have no money and the rejection of job searching isn't helping, me and my boyfriend are going to split, I'm losing my friends and my parents aren't talking to me. i feel so alone all i seem to be doing is crying, nothing is helping i go for a walk to try and clear my mind but everything seem be going over and over and its killing me. i have no money to just go out and forget about it for a while, i cant escape and cant stand feeling like this no more, please help ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2011): My advice is to make peace with those you love. No one can go through life alone. You need to communicate with them and try to understand their side too.ALSO, boredom will lead to you feeling like you have no purpose. I think you should find something you enjoy doing to occupy your time. Perhaps, you could volunteer your time to help others... you could even put that on your resume.stay positive:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): I know exactly how you feel, cos ive no job at all,and i have a college degree which seems to be no addition, but I do some volunteer work in my area,maybe you could do something like that, you meeting people, you're kept busy, it doesnt cost anything and you're doing something worthwhile to help people who need it. This would instantly give you a positve outlook and improve your mood.As for money, maybe you could claim benefit for the days you cannot work? This would give you a bit of extra money, I dont know how it works in the UK but look into it. Maybe you could think about returning to education, there might be some "back to education" scheme that you could avail of and in the mean time keep applying for jobs, you stand no chance if you dont keep trying.As for your friends why not suggest a night at your house, or their house, have a few drinks, cook some pizza, play a bit of music. Even if you just did that now and again, its a cheap night and im sure they'd understand that money is very tight just now. I know its tough, but you have to budget youry money, look at luxury things you dont really need, cut them out and save that money maybe to go somewhere with your friends. By making these little changes in your life you will feel better and your relationship with your bf and your parents would improve. If you're on the verge of breaking up with your bf, sit down and talk to him and explain how frustrated you are with your life. Only you can change your situation, just by doing some of the small things i mentioned. Don't give up, you're just going through a shity patch in your life all i can say overall is try not to take life too seriously.I know its tough, but chin up!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): I know exactly how you feel. I finished 6th form last summer and was unemployed until last week. When I was applying for jobs, I NEVER got replies, but I didn't give up. It made me feel awful and like nothing was going to happen, but I kept going. And not giving up and not letting it get me down worked, and I now work 20 - 30 hours a week. I see your from the UK? If your working under 16 hours a week, you are entitled to job seekers allowance. You should try and see if you can get it, to help you out a bit with your money problems until you can get a job with better hours. With your boyfriend, you describe it as a rough patch. Maybe your taking your frustrations in life out on him, Im not sure, but just try and see life in a different light. It WILL get better.Just don't give up on anything. All the best x
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