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female
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41-50,
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writes:Hello everyone, I feel like I am in terrible dilemma. I think I'm pregnant, in fact I'm certain I am (test tomorrow) I have a 13 month old baby and am still with my partner but we're living apart at the moment. The past year has been very stressful, he is drink dependant and life got out of control to the point where I oculdn;t live with him anymore. A month ago he had to take himself to hospital, where they pumped his through with minerals and gave him medication to help the withdrawal symptoms after 8 days of drinking. I think he scared himself and since then has found God. He believes in his darkness hour GOD was there to help him and he has found his faith and says he will never drink again because Jesus is now with him. He now goes to church type meetings/bible study 3 times a week, reads his bible every morning and goes to Church every Sunday. This is hard for me to deal with but obviously so much better than him drinking and the rollercoaster of the devastation it causes. I don't want us living together anytime soon. I'm so happy with my baby, (he already has 2 children from a previous relationship) - having another child would be chaos. I'm on the pill and take it every day, but my period is late and I'm feel exactly the same as I did when I was pregnant before. I feel that a termination is the right thing to do. I'm not even sure if my boyfriend and I will be together in 6 months time and I'm 40 years old. My house is too small for another child and I would struggle with childcare work and more. I'm too scared to tell him because since he has found 'God' there is no way he would be happy with a termination. I would have to sell my house and lose all my security that is so important to me. He would be at church all the time and entertaining his 2 other older children and I would be stuck struggling on my own. I just don't know what to do? Very worried and feeling anxious.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 September 2014):
 First relax. You don't need to make any decision til you know for a FACT that you are pregnant.
So take the test and THEN decide.
It would be EASY for him to say, no you HAVE to have the baby. Especially if he isn't providing financial, emotional or physical help. The Bible (pardon me any religious people) can NOT feed you or HOUSE you and the kids. So YOU have to make this choice for YOURSELF. FOR what's right for YOU, for what YOU can handle.
As long as YOU can live with whatever choice you make, THIS is your choice. Your body.
Right now HE is trying to focus on himself and HIS recovery - which means he is NO help to you. You are, so to speak, on your own here.
Another option would be adoption.
But til you can text, you need to relax and breathe.
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