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writes:I've become very concerned about my husband and son's behavior recently.My son is 14 and learning from my husband it's OK to imitate Kanye West's behavior, the two of them have suddenly become very misogynistic and make crude jokes, and spamming people via Facebook with fake accounts and messages with gay jokes or jokes about non-binary people, or pro-Kanye West memes.Nothing I say or do seems to have any effect on them.They get quite angry about things a lot, they spend a lot of time with each other and won't let me get involved and eat separately from us.Now you might think that's father-son bonding, but things have gotten worse when I learnt they've gotten involved in anti-vaxxer-related things online and wrote a website insisting "Non-binary people are jokes, they don't exist or shouldn't, they're people who want attention", the website was a whole rant about LGBT people which was hurtful, it also was very pro-Donald Trump.My husband's also had behavior that seems consistent with "roid rage" and he's thrown temper tantrums in public, he yelled at a shop assistant because the store didn't have the brand of cereal he wanted, and he's also started having a "I must have the best of everything" attitude, spent $200 on a shirt online. WTF?? When people are struggling these days, $200 on a shirt.... isn't that worrying? Yes, I appreciate the people selling it get paid, but there's a housing crisis here and other things.As for my son, well, he's become obsessive about Netflix, keeps phoning randos asking about "Netflix and chill" using phone numbers he got from online, and like his dad, threw temper tantrums if he doesn't get his way.I really feel like divorcing if things get worse, am I undergoing domestic violence?What could have caused the two of them to suddenly have this personality shift?I feel really upset and Mom's trying to help me, but at the same time, I'm confused and worried.I can't really cut off the Internet in my house since I obviously need it for work as well as for fun, so that's out.But what can be done about their attitudes?I feel upset, angry, defeated and stressed.Help this mom out, I don't know what to do for the best.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 April 2022):
 Hello again, prolific fantasy writer.
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reader, malvern  +, writes (3 April 2022):
 I am not sure whether this would be termed as domestic violence or not, but I think you need to speak to some sort of expert regarding your husbands behaviour. If this was happening to me personally I know I would be thinking about divorce and getting my son away from his father. Your husband clearly has some sort of a mental problem. Your husband sounds a lot like my husbands middle son, age 31, from his first marriage. He too is an anti vaxer, gets in a rage easily, and thinks he's Gods gift to the world etc, etc and spends all his time trying to convince others to believe in the things he thinks are correct. We don't know how his poor wife puts up with him actually and everybody thinks he's a nutter! I'm no expert on this but I would say get out while you can. Do you want this for the rest of your life? If your 14 yr old son can live with you at least he will be away from his fathers influence for some of the time.
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