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writes:Hi there my girlfriend and I have been living together for three months, and in this period of time our relationship has fallen apart. I want to move out, but I feel that will wreak havoc on my schoolwork and that I will have to finish the lease and therefore be unable to pay for another place to live. But I still care for her too and don't want her to get hurt.My girlfriend is fairly emotionally and physically abusive, she will hit me, bite me and pinch me and continue when I tell her to stop. I had a friend over the other day and she kept telling my friend how I am mentally abusive, just because she was pissed off at me (which this lie is in my opion abuse in and of itself). I do most of the cleaning around here and all of the cooking, pay the bills and shop for groceries, I helped her when her car needed to be fixed and ensured that it was paid for. Yet, when I ask her to help out her typical response is "no, I helped out once last week" (she put the dishes in the dishwasher two days in a row, two weeks ago)She has no job but gets money for her mom for living expenses (for while whe is in school, yet she is taking a break this semester), yet she will lie to her mother about the amount and then go spend the extra money on Pot. Which by the way increases her menatl instability (she has BPD). Essentially she just sits around all day eating (from the munchies) and watching TV.The sad fact is that her family (parents and her parents friends) trust me more than they do her, and they really care about me and I feel a connection with them, but it is her I cannot deal with.I am tired and overworked, please let me know what to do.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 she is what I have termed a "skankasorous". A skankasorous is a creature that is unable to clean up its own filth. It is aggressive and of low intelligence. This animal usually tries to gain control of higher animals in an attempt to gain access to the food and shelter the higher animals have aquired on their own. Many times, the skankasorous must move to different packs after being outcasted by previous packs.
GET AWAY AND RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AS THE SKANKASOROUS IS HIGHLY FERTILE
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): It sounds as if your girlfriend is a bit of a 'user', taking all and giving nothing back. You will have to get yourself out of the relationship somehow.If you are paying the lease how about her leaving. Even though you don't want to hurt her there is no easy way to end things so prepare for some hurt on both sides. In the end it will be worth it though as I don't think you can see a long term future with her. She sounds quite unstable.
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reader, Abella +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Your situation is not OK and you do not need to put up with it any more.
I suspect the money her Mom gives her would be welcome relief for her Mom just to be rid of her.
This girl is selfish, cruel and abusive in multiple ways.
She's also immature.
Get the lease sorted out, and let the landlord know your final day, so that the lease is no longer in your name.
The aim being that once you leave you owe nothing more.
Get all utilities companies to do a final reading and pay for those bills and then get your name off the bills.
This girl is lazy and exploititive.
Getting her out of the place would be drama plus. I think it would be easier if you did all of the above and you leave. Then if she can't pay the rent she can go back to her family.
Where she goes is NOT your problem.
You have done more than your share trying to solve this selfish girl's problems.
Under NO circumstances leave her in the/place with your name still on the bills as you still responsible for the bills, or she will trash your credit rating.
She is irresponsible with little personal discipline and poor social control.
NO MORE sex with this girl. You do not want any opportunity where she could 'accidently' get pregnant to trap you into staying.
Expect her to bad mouth you once you leave. But do not allow her to get to you. You know the truth. Do not react to her potentially slanderous comments. People will see through her and realise she is the problem, not you.
Can you move in with a parent/s?
This girl will destroy your life and your confidence in yourself. She is toxic. And there are much nicer girls than this selfish exploititive user.
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