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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes: I've been working at my retail job for almost 2 years, I am extremely close with everyone who works there and love going to work. Over the summer me and a group of people hung out a lot and this one guy in particular (lets name him T) started flirting with me, he'd text me constantly, always drive me home, try and touch me etc. At first i wasn't into it and i didn't wanna date so i always told T to stop, but he didn't and would continue to do the same things he tried to kiss me as well. Even though all of this happened we are still close and really good friends, and i think now I've started to have feelings for him. But we can't date because of work, friends and family, i know he still has feelings for me also.... what do i do?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 October 2016):
From reading your post I think he wants to have sex with you, I don't think he has genuine feelings for you. If he did then he would have respected you when you said no and he would have asked you on a date not try and kiss or touch you.
Stay away from this guy, he sounds like bad news. Don't accept rides from him, be friendly but don't flirt back. Keep your distance. Your job is at risk if you allow him to have sex with you and then he uses you and leaves you, you won't want to work along with him and you will end up feeling upset and want to leave work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2016): He just wants to have sex with you. You've allowed him to cross boundaries, so now he feels free to make advances.
He's always attempting to touch, and never asked to take you on a proper date; as a guy would if he wanted to get to know you better. He can see you weakening to his advances; that's the reason for his persistence.
He is only interested in what's under your skirt. You're reading it as being into you. Go ahead and take the bait, and find-out why it's a bad idea to mess around where you earn your rent, food, and bill money.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 October 2016):
Keep it platonic. If he flirts with you, don't flirt back. If he tries to kiss you tell him no. Maybe also stop accepting rides from him.
Seems to me that he is looking to get into your pants more than to date you. If he had wanted to date you, I think he would have asked you out by now.
So BE professional. And expect him to behave in a respectful manner too.
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