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writes:I'm at the end of my rope here, I've been togheter with my gf for about 6,5 months, and during that time I've seen her once a week, sometimes twice a week, but never for more then 3-6 hours at a time. She made it clear that she wants to study hard so she can pass all her exams this year. But truth is she spends 98 percent of her time on her friends and schoolwork, and I get the remaining 2% of her time which is at the most a few hours in the weekend. I've lost the feeling that I'm in a relationship. The only thing I can hold on to are the texts she sends me each day that she loves me. I do understand that it's important for her to pass all her exams, but the only thing that makes me stay with her is that I know that the next time I see her, all my feelings for her will come back, yes, if I don't see her for a long period of time I lose the love I feel for her, mostly anyways.Might not make sense to many of you, but I blame it on my autism, that's the best way I can explain that.I try to focus on my job, but my mind keeps wandering. I've seriously considered breaking up with her because not seeing her all that often... I just... don't feel loved if she's not around. Seems like she has time for everything but me, and I know what some of you might say,... 'look forward to the holidays, you may see her more often then' I wish, because during the holidays she has to work, saving up money to go abroad for a year. Seeing as I'm already having problems missing her for two weeks, I don't know what I'll do if she's gone for an entire year...So my question is, how do I cope with the fact that she has little time for me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Well i understand that you are scared to talk to her about these kind of things in case it puts the relationship in danger but you cant bottle things up because yes eventually you will explode and everything will come flooding out. You need to be open and honest with her at all times.
When she texted you that message you should have replied and said aw thats nice you should have told me and i would have came along with you. By dropping small hints like that hopefully she will soon get the message. Next time you see her be strong tell yourself you need to do this and just get it over and done with and tell her how you feel. It has to be done. Find the strength within yourself to do it. You can talk to her you just need to find it within you to bring it up. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wish I could bring it up when talking to her but I can't, I can't talk to her about things that might endanger the relationship, I've lost her once, I want to avoid any and all things that might cause us to break up again. But I've come to realise that our relationship probably won't last if I don't talk to her about these things. I'll probably burst eventually, and I tend to burst agressively, not my intention but that's what happens when I bottle things up.
Just today I received a text saying she misses me, but a little later she answers my text(asking how her day was) that she went for a walk with her dog on the beach, my first thought was... why didn't she ask me to come along? I say to myself, you have to talk about it to her now! (whenever I get to see her) but when I see her face to face, I just lose the urge to talk about it, I've then missed her so much I don't care about it anymore.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (14 January 2011):
Well i guess hun that you need to answer this one yourself. If you feel that you arent getting anything from this relationship then you are best to cut your ties now and look for a girl that is not as busy as your current girlfriend. It looks like she is planning her life and not concidering your relationship especially if she is planning on going away for a year. It might be best if you cut your losses now and move on.
However the decision has to come from you and only you ask yourself what you get from the relationship and ask yourself is it enough? Its obviously not when you are this unhappy maybe try talking to her about it tell her how you feel and see what she says.
Goodluck.
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