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female
age
36-40,
*hy i am alone
writes:I am a silly girl of 23. I have tried my level to run a smooth relation with my boyfriend. Well it is a long story. We met by a wrong call. He just dialed my number and asked me to be his friend. At first I refused but then after his continuous calls I accepted. We were just good friends and nothing else. He used to talk to me for hours. I used to discuss my daily routine with him and he was a good listener he rarely shared something. During the 1st year of our relation we never fought. Then, on 14th Feb he purposed me and said that he has fallen in love with me. Before doing this he told me that he has been drinking and sleeping with prostitutes and doing wrong things like that. Let me mention that we had never met (saw each other even through snaps) during this time. I was shocked and I didn’t say anything to him. He kept begging me and finally I melted and said okay if he will leave his previous routine. He accepted at once. No doubt he did whatever he promised me to do. He stopped drinking and even smoking. I truly started loving him. We met and planed our future. We were very happy with each other.Then problems start coming in our relation. He lost his job. He planed to invest his savings in some business but his partner committed fraud and ran away with all his money. But I don’t know what my fault in all this is. Now, he says he doesn’t want to make long calls to me and he hates chatting because whenever we chat it results in a fight. He doesn’t want me to ask what is going wrong on his side because I can’t help him. It’s not happening for the first time. Whenever he is tense he behaves the same way. He just sms me not to contact him until he himself calls me. Why???? Doesn’t it give a sense of disrespect????He is always very rude to me when he is tense. And on the other hand very loving and caring when I am in front of his eyesWhat is all this? I am unable to understand. It is disturbing my peace of mind. I can’t concentrate on my studies because of his behavior. Please someone guide me what to do???
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 it's very simple. those kind of guys, acomulate stress, over and over, until the littlest of the problems, makes them explode. then when all is over, they are calm peaceful and gentle. beware of those persons, because if they don't have someone else to lay all their problems, it'll be on you. how do i know so much? i'm exactly the same. beware, even more, because when they don't have someone to put the guilt on, they tend to depress, and most end on suicide...
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