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writes:I've been with my boyfriend 8 months and i love him very much. He has been my first and only sexual partner. I was his second but i am the only person he has ever had sex with without a condom. Anyway i have no problem reaching orgasm during oral sex yet i can't seem to reach it at the same height or perhaps at all during intercourse. Or when i am on top. I enjoy sex a lot even though i haven't really orgasmed from it but i would like to know if there is anything i can do to help myself orgasm. Are orgasms much more pleasurable in oral or is it just me who hasn't had the great climax during intercourse. I don't want to meantion this to my boyfriend because he has never had this kind of problem.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Having been with women that could not orgasm through intercourse before me, I can only say that i was able to get them to that point through tenacity and alot of foreplay. The first orgasm when having sex is usually the hardest to have for most women, I have found. For those women, there needs to be alot of mental foreplay, and other stimulation than just bone jumping. After the foreplay I have found that oral until her reaching an orgasm works great for seconds and thirds. While your having your oral orgasm have him jump on and take you to completion with whatever you both like (ie hard and fast or slow). I find that hard and fast for about 20 minutes usually gets her there the second time, but in the right position. Help him to find that right spot, he has to go probing for it. Try on your belly, on your back legs on the headboard, try everything but find that best position that is gonna get you there. One other thing, don't expect the same kind of orgasm through intercourse that you get with oral. Every woman I have been with has told me that it is a different kind of orgasm, not as intense, but typically you can have more of them. Above all, don't fake it, find your limits, what you are fully capable of. If he's a good lover, he will get you there, but you have to help him get you there. Relax and make it fun .
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (11 July 2007):
 I think the word we are looking for is....RELAX! I will say, it's not like it "came" easy. It's something you have to work at. When I was much younger, I didn't even know what that was (probably because we didn't talk about alot of things back then...hush hush) let alone experience it till much later in my mid 20's. My husband (when I was married) was the first to ever make this happen for me. I beleive it was because he did take his time in making sure I was enjoying our pleasure, and when I did, I had no idea what was happening to me and/or my body other then it felt so awesome. I have had only one other experience in this with someone I see when we have sex. He excites me like no other! I believe it's because if they (men) want to make sure you are happy, not just themselves, you feel it, and you can sense it to and your able to just relax - key word here. Oral sex is wonderful and yes, it's easier to reach orgasm this way, but when you are given the feeling of no matter how much time it takes, he wants to please you, you feel on top of the world, you can relax and know that it can happen...just don't think about it either...you have to just be "in" with what is happening and just enjoy yourself...and that's all you need to think about. It will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): most women don't have orgasms through intercourse. chances are your boyfriend HAS had this problem before he just didn't know . its no big deal as long as you're getting them somehow!
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