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writes:Hi there. I'm 13 years old and I'm in Year 9. I'm in a bit of a dilemma. Between two boys. I'll call them Boy A and Boy B. Boy A has been my best friend since Year 8, even though he's in the year above me. He's one of the funniest, kindest and most caring people you could ever meet. We have had a lot of history together though. About a month after we became great friends, I discovered I was incredibly in love with him. I was so confused whether to tell him or not because I was so worried that it'd spoil our friendship. I eventually told him the basics, just that I liked him and such. And he said, "You're really pretty and I love you as a friend but I just want to stay that way." I acted like I was fine with it, but deep inside - my heart had been shattered to pieces. Then about two months after, I blabbed everything and all my feelings to him but he still said the same thing. I was just standing there holding him close and just pouring with tears against his chest. Afterwards, I just distanced myself from him because it was so painful just to even look at him. I couldn't, otherwise I'd burst out into tears again. I just felt so empty, so numb. After about a month, he actually started to be a bit peed off with me. Then from then on, we just didn't like each other very much. Then eventually, one day out of the blue - he turned round and gave me a hug. I knew from that point, things were going to get better between us. And they were, much better. I'm halfway through Year 9 now, but we're still incredibly close friends. But about two months ago, a new girl came to our school. And just like that, everybody loved her and she's immensely popular. I can't stand her. She's constantly flirting with him and teasing him 24/7 and she has her own boyfriend! The only thing is, I think he likes her. I honestly don't think she realises how important he is to me and she's all over him like a rash. It just made me realise just how much I've always loved him. He always sticks up for me, he's always there when I need a shoulder to cry on and the other day, he said to me, "You're so beautiful." but I seriously don't think I am. I just don't think he'd ever form a relationship with me, because of all the history we've had and for the sake of our friendship. Still today, he still doesn't know how I feel. Now, coming to Boy B: In History lessons, my classroom is directly opposite another and both have see-through doors. I sit right up against the door. Then one day, out of the blue, I saw this boy and he looked like nothing short of an angel. I just thought, "Wow, he's beautiful. He' just perfect." And every History lesson, I was constantly distracted by the beauty and elegance of him. I noticed that he wasn't wearing a uniform, and none of the people in the classroom he was in were wearing uniforms either. So that could only mean one thing: he was in the Sixth Form. Sixth Form is Year 12's and Year 13's. Their ages range from 16-18 years old. I had to find out who this boy was. My friend's boyfriend is also in Sixth Form, and he's one of my friends on Facebook. So I thought, maybe he could be friends with this boy because they're both in Sixth Form. So I looked through his Friends List, and this boy was 7th from the top. I recognised him instantly. I sent him a friend request and he accepted it. And bam, we were friends on Facebook. I found out that he was 16, he's 3 years older than me. When my sister blabbed all of it to my Dad, he wasn't happy to find out he was 16. Coz he thinks that all 16 year olds have only got their mind on one thing. It took me HOURS trying to persuade him otherwise. I looked through his profile to see what kind of things he's into. So I constantly post statuses about the things he likes in hope that he'll comment. I would pop up and chat to him. I really would but I am really really shy. And now I can't choose between the two boys. And how will I get Boy B to notice me? I'm begging you for advice, please help me!
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reader, kaykay1989 +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Hey sweeti,I think Boy A as you would put it is a lost cause. Although he's said your beautiful etc he's already said he sees you as a friend even though that was a while ago i would think it still stands unless he says that he's interested in you in that way i wouldn't waste to much time yearning after him.As for Boy B I can see why your father would be concerned most fathers would be and even I would be as thats quite a lot in school years. Just be yourself and don't be anything that your not. Theres plenty of time to date your still young and i'm sure theres plenty of guys out there that will want to date you so don't rush things. xoxoxox
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