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writes:I just read this quote on this website as a reply to one of the questions about porn: "Men are a thousand times more visual than we are. We just have to grin and bear it, and move on to bigger problems like they often say." My issue...is that it IS a big issue. I know my guy looks at other girls alllll the time. Like every guy does. I realize that it doesn't mean he loves me any less. But my insecurity over just that fact has made it so I can't have sex with him anymore. If I try I end up feeling so disgusting about myself I just cry. We haven't had sex in months, even when I want it because we both know the result. I honestly want some therapy but can't afford it. Please help me. Please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): I'm a man I don't intentionally look at other woman. I also do not watch porn as I know it would hurt my gf's feelings; also, i'm just not that interested in porn... I find my gf a thousand times more exciting than anything I've ever seen on a computer or tv screen...
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reader, blahblahblahh  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 To keep things short and simple, I look at it this way; if it effects you and hurts you, and he won't stop, then he doesn't care much about you. I'm sure you'd stop something if it was effecting him.. But as for the looking at other women, I don't think that can be stopped, unfortunatly that IS Human nature and I wouldn't worry about that, but the porn is different, of course you should act upon that if it damages you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): I don't agree here. I didn't like it when my guy did it because I thought it was bloody rude and inconsiderate, and no one can tell me otherwise. We can all control our actions and NO, not all men look. I believe my partner did this because he was letting me know, at the time, that he wasn't that in to me. We've had countless arguments and now I'm not really aware that he does it at all. He now knows I WILL NOT accept this behaviour. I've said to him that if a women is overt, with her tits hanging out etc, then it's hard for people not to look (my friend does this all the time when we are round her house and invariably you get an eye full of tit - even I can't help but notice). That, is the only time this is acceptable. If your man does this all the time, let him be single and enjoy his viewing. The fact that men say "all men do it" suggests a weakness of character that I abhor. Also, did your parents drag you up to have the manners of a pig? I also think this is a way of dehumanising women - the men that say "all men do it" - are you actually aware that most decent women don't like being eyed up by a prick with a girl on his arm!! Keep your eyes to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Sweetie! Yes they all do. You're correct there.
But rest assured, MANY guys will be looking at you, even when you're with him. It goes both ways. As someone said, men can be very subtle when they check out other women.
I mean, if his looking at other women makes you feel unattractive, don't let it! Because other men ARE looking at you. Let that make you feel attractive and confident, it helps a lot!
It goes both ways, you know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Find a new man. I live with mine and everything, he would never look at another girl especially when we are out together. He hates how perv guys are giving nice guys like him a bad name. And don't listen when people say every guy does because it's just not the truth!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 UR definetly right that all guys do it(look at other women) just be yourself and he'll look less and less at them and more and more at you. Even us older guys can't help but to ghave fantasy sex. the we "come to and realize it's a dream. hang in
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Girl ever tried looking at other men around you.There is nothing wrong in it.You just LOOK.When you start looking you will realize that's all he does.Like we look at any flower or bird or a beautiful puppy.It definitely doesn't mean he lusts after the girl or is going to leave you for her.Most of the nice guys are very subtle when are with their partners while they happen to look at a pretty face.If he keeps staring and expresses an interest in the other girl explicitly the guy has a problem,not you.But if he just looks please cut him some slack.
The key is to trust in yourself.Develop your self esteem and BELIEVE you are beautiful.Start dressing well.Apply makeup if it makes you feel good about yourself.Nothing can beat sexy confidence.
On the other hand if he sits on the computer wanking himself and NEVER EVER gives you attention or sex he is an addict.He needs therapy.
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