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writes:I've been working myslf up into a.complete mess this week, I love my fiance with all my heart and wen he asked me to marry him i was over the moon. But iv had.such a bad.time.with men that the nasty little voice in the back of my mind wont.let me believe that its.real! I know he loves me but.im scared he's gonna turn round.one day and decide im not the one.and.walk off. I.also.worry that his.family dont like.me. I keep it quiet coz i dont.want people.to call me silly or ungrateful. Im marrying the man of my dreams but seem to be making it as difficult as possible! I dont feel like this all.the time. It tends to come hand in hand with pms, but its making me feel.so sad and frustrated. Its almost like now i have no problems, i cant alow myself to be happy! Does anyone.else ever feel like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): I understand how you must feel but when it comes to thinking like that you can create messes. If you consantly hope for the worst that's wht you'll get because that's all you focus on and see but if you look abd the good in your life and focus on tgt instead you'll feel a lot better. For example, instead of saying "my husband might leave me because I have bad relationships with men," say "if my past relationships did work out I maybe wouldn't have met such a wonder man who wants to marry me and have a future with me." or "so many women want marrige or someone who loves them but never find one, thankfully I did." It's all about how you see situations around you, if you think negative even though you don't mean too it can cause a change in you behavior, make you lose trust for him and before you know it you're pushing him away becuse you're accusing him of cheating or not spending enough time with you until you probably end up pushing him away becauae you thoughts are linked to your actions. Now I know many things can have a bad side but its up to you to decide which side you want to focus on, the good or the bad. Be happy for what you have don't paint a future tha may never come true.I hope this helps. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): Yes, probably quite a few do feel like this. Its unbelievable that everythings working out right sometimes, you have to pinch yourself.
But it is real, you are going to be happy and lifes good. So sort out the PMS and tell your lovely man that its just womens cycle causing doubts.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 You need to talk to your man and tell him how you feel. It is probably just PMS playing nasty tricks with your mind, but if you tell him then he will be able to help and reassure you that he loves you and wants to be with you. I can understand you have had a bad past and if you feel you need some therapy to get over it then go for it, because it can help a lot. But believe me sharing this with your partner may also help you a lot.
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