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writes:I apologise in advance for the detail of this question but it incorporates a lot as you should notice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, everything has been great minus the usual up's and down's but overall we are in love and happy with each other, well that probably isn't 100% honesty considering i'm looking for advice!Basically i am four mths pregnant and we are both delighted with "expecting the unexpected" but there is just a few problems, possibly insecurities which have led me to ask for advice.Since moving back to his home town and leaving all my friends and family to move 7hrs away everything in relation to my emotional side has been magnified. Vunerabiltiy, Insecurity, Affection etc.but his answer to this is instead of giving it to me he would rather watch porn, i detest it i see myself as a well educated woman and i just cannot see the sense in it? I have tried to get involoved as he wants me to due to his own acceptance issues but it does nothing for me only to confirm my feelings of inadequacy and unsexiness which at present are impossible to shift.Our sex life was brilliant but now it just feels like its not good enough for him.This isn't structured very well but basically he has pushed the idea of having a threesome/orgy whilst i am pregnant, due to the age difference (me being 22, he 29) i feel less experienced in the bedroom department anyway so i almost feel bullied to satisfy sometimes. In my head i feel when pregnant a woman should be smothered with emotional support from her partner especially since i have moved away but due to my partners own unstable up-bringing he has never properly experienced love hence his use of porn.My head is just swirling at the minute as i have so much to say but can't express it all properly...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): I know how you are feeling .... i can say that hand on heart.
I am 4 months pregnant also and feel totally on my own. My fiane is 24, I am 19 and I am finding being pregnant a lonely experience. I feel the need to be smothered in his love, for him to be completely involved but i just feel like im receiving no support what so ever.
You being so far away from your family must be really hard also ... and for your partner to be so selfish and ask for a threesome ect is just a step way too far. You really must find it in yourself to tell him No. You have nothing to prove to him. As for the porn, I also feel the same as you, my fiance like to watch this also but i dont allow it. If i am not here then he can do as he wishes but whilst i am here it is a no go.
I think that you should go and stay with your family, even for just a week ... thats what i plan on doing ... Before you go tell you partner of your feeling but do not give him time to try and turn your mind. Give him the choice, to live as a single man like he is trying to or to face p to his responsibilities 100 percent and to be there for you. During the week he will miss you meanwhile you will realise that you can cope and this will put some reassurancce into your mind about your own capability.
I wish you all the best during your pregnancy and birth and I hope your partner turns his actions around and gives you the support and love that you deservee ... afterall you have labour to go through soon haha x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): You're pregnant and he's pressuring you to have a threesome? What kind of man is this? You mustn't let him walk all over you. 29 or 39, that seems a very selfish suggestion.
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