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anonymous
writes:My close friend told me about 7 months that he loved me and i was so shocked, but then i realised i liked him too... the situation was difficult because he was married but seperated and we work together so we were I guess sneaking around.He is Indian and totally my "one". We get along so well and we totally love each other.I am White though and when ask his parents their thoughts on him bringing home a white girl they said it would ruin their reputation that they worked so hard for. He never told them about me. This was about 4 months ago and we have tried so hard to end it but its impossible.We have tried not talking, trying to make each other mad so we hate each other, being just friends... and we both cant do it.His parents want him to go back to his wife and he says he doesnt know what to do..I asked him what he wants he said he just wants to be with me and the only way would be to run away, and i cant let him do that! And i think he would always regret it. I dont want him to have to choose between them and me.How do I get over him? How can we get over each other? Bear in mind we work together too. And it would be impossible not to see him. Reply to this Question
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Hold out. Be neither for nor against. Create emotional distance and see what happens over 2-3 months. Request his separation develop to divorce before any thing else happens. Be serious. This is life, family and work involved so make no moves before legitimate moves are available. He has the ball in his court and you need to let him know it and then move back, ready for a good shot. He is Indian, so his family is very important, don't rush things, there is still time.
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