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writes: I know this is a pretty standard scenario but I am struggling very hard to come to terms with the break up of my relationship. My b/f moved to the other side of the world 2 months ago after we had been together a year. He went while we were still on a high, and still really in love. For the first month, we spoke daily, but then I realised I couldn't move on that way and cut contact. It was working, but just recently I have started to feel utterly bereft again. I dream about him every night, and have a permenant lump in my throat. I try to keep busy, but each time I go out with my friends I come home early because I need to cry. I look around and there is no-one like him.I don't know how I will ever be happy again, and certainly have another relationship. I wonder what he is doing and if he has found a new girl yet, so much that I obsess and try to peice stuff together from his horoscope. I miss him so very much and feel like I will always be alone now as I have lost my one true love. Its so painful and I can't seem to get passed it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): Thank you everyone, it is good to know I am not the only one who has ever felt this way! As far as going over there goes, well I have run that fantasy over in my head a million times but figured if he wanted me to go with he woulda asked at the time. Which he didn't, so here I am- missing him but with my dignity intact! I know it will get better in time, I'm just gonna stick with my girlfriends and try to move on. Thanks again guys xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): Move to the other side of the world with him. Yea that will be great. Just say you were in the area (ha!) surprise him, say you just wanted to pop over to tell him you love him... I would if I were you...
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reader, lauxx +, writes (1 June 2006):
 hey chic, i know exactly what your goin through only my boyfriend said he needed space from me as he is greiving from a death! but i am hurtin cause i know that my boyfriend well ex now, is spending time with his ex!! and that hurts so much, all i want is him back but like everyone else is sayin it takes time!! my ex lives up north and i live in the midlands so we both live far away but i know it can work!!! please don't worry about it, i know how your feelin and i know it hurts but the best thing is your girlfriends they will help soo much!! mine have but even now i think to myself it would be better if he was her!! but just think to yourself i am a strong, confident person and i have my friends and family here!! just enjoy life while you can!! its hard but i am here for you!! i am still hurtin but jus tryin to get on with life, my ex wont even talk to me so i am stuck!! dont think the worst or the worst will happen be strong!! good luck mate. message back
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reader, Smiler +, writes (1 June 2006):
 Hey there sweetie
firstly i'm sorry to hear your so sad :-(, well let me say u are not obsessing at all, its a painful place your at right now; eveyone at one time in there life has been there where your at its not nice.... but i will try my best to help you through this ok.... well sweetie they say time is a great healer and helps you get over ex partners but if your anything like me i shuddered just hearing or saying the word ex cause i so much wanted him back.. but hey i'm hear to tell you from experience that if you are strong and confident sweetie you can get through this and see the light at the end of the tunnel.... i know you can't see that light right now but trust me its there. i can understand why you cut contact off completely and in your case i think thats the best thing you could of done because its less painful keep talking to him imagining what you can't have any longer so the complete break was a good idea... so your on the right tracks to getting over him... as for the missing him part me personally i would find something to do in my spare time that kept me busy so i did'nt have time to sit around thinking about him and wanting him.. the painful side of this will take time to heal and the finding someone else will also take time don't jump straight in with someone new you'll just be on the rebound sweetie.... take time to heal go out with your girlfriends have some fun as the saying goes kick up your heels, try and enjoy life so you don't constantly find yourself thinking of him then before you know it you'll be standing in that light at the end of that tunnel rather than just looking for it ok sweetie.
i hope my advise helped you a little... good luck sweetie. if you ever need someone to talk to or just more advise don't hesitate to email me ok....would love to hear from you again..
You Take Care Sweetie Ok X
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reader, camille  +, writes (1 June 2006):
 It must be very difficult for you. Long distance relationships are hard but can work. It may be that you were missing him so deserately you decided long distance wasn't for you, but it wasn't the only solution. Is there a chance you can try again? If not, then I'm sorry but all those old cliches are the only things I can say to you. (Cliches are annoying but so tru which is why they exist). Time is a great healer and trust me when I tell you it will get easier over time and that you will meet someone new, but only when you're ready. You sound as if you're grieving the loss of your relationship. It's good to keep busy and go out with friends but there's nothing wrong with crying either. As long as it isn't all consuming and taking up all your time. My only other suggestion is to throw the horoscopes away, they won't tell you ANYTHING about what he's up to. Maybe it's time to talk to him..... to either discuss a way forward if that's what you both want or to put some closure so you can start to move on.
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