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30-35,
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writes:My boyfriend used to have this close friend but they fell out a week into our relationship. Yesterday they started talking again and planned something today -which happened to be a somewhat important anniversary for us. My boyfriend agreed to the meeting and went out to see his friend along with another. He didn't come home when he said he did, and when he eventually got home he was acting pretty weird and withdrawn. He hadn't been in the house an hour before this friend rang him back up and asked if he wanted to come back out. At first my boyfriend declined, sensing I was annoying, but I didn't want to be the type of girlfriend who says when he can and can't hang out so I told him to ring his friend back and agree. He did that and they went out and came home pretty late. Once again he was acting weird. Then he told me about this road trip they're planning in February, it'll last about a week he told me. But they're men in their late teens, I know some shit will go down and it'll be longer than they plan. My boyfriend gets upset if I say I'm going to stay at my Gran's for one night if we have a lovers spat. But he finds it acceptable to leave me for that long? Especially when I know he'll be drunk probably the entire trip.My problem is... His friend's not been in his life for 48 hours and I can already see problems rising and us floating apart.What should I do?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Have you talked to him about how you feel? Is his friend male or female?
If he is going on a week long road trip, then you are more than welcome to do whatever the hell you want to and when you want to. You two aren't married. You don't require his permission to make a decision do you?
I would tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. If he doesn't understand then break up with him and find someone new. I know that's really easier said than done.
What is the road trip for? Go out with some of your own friends and stay out later than you say you are going to, see how that makes him feel.
Good luck.
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