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*zNonchalant
writes:I think I have a problem. It's like I like a boy and I can talk to him everyday for 6 months {without being with him} and still like him. But when I finally go with him all my attraction to him is gone [like it was never there]. It happening now. I'm going with this boy that I liked for maybe 7 months and now I don't like him. I like someone else. WHAT TO DO? HELP!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, MzNonchalant +, writes (15 October 2008):
MzNonchalant is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks. And that makes a lot of sense. Now that I think about it I do tend to think of how I want the relationship to be like before I go with the boy. But how to break the cycle.
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reader, gemstone  +, writes (15 October 2008):
It seems that what you are attracted to is actually the fantasy of the boy rather than the boy himself. You fabricate in your own mind who he is and how you would be together and because you like him for such a long time, you do this for a while. When eventually you go out with him however, no surprise that the reality does not meet your expectations or fantasy causing you frustration.
My advice: break the cycle- your young now but you wont be forever and falling into a bad pattern like this will leave you lonely and confused.
Meet a boy and get to know him properly before making a decision that you want to be with him. Don't rely on your own fabrications of him because they are nearly always false.
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