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anonymous
writes:dear cupidi have a crush on my best friend of 5years. he doesnt know it but i really like him. we are very close and used to talk with each other everyday.. we say things like i love you and really really like each other alot. but im tired because im the one doing all the calling day in day out.. everyday im the one calling him and he talks.. sometimes we dont talk for a couple of days and im the one calling him back and when i ask him why he didnt call he would say he was busy and convince me and we will be ok.he used to call me before and talk everyday nowadays i feel the closeness is somewhat disapearing and it is hurting me.. im just thinking why because i am calling him everyday and i feel he is not so interested to talk.. he is busy with work and college also and i know sometimes he is really busy but sometimes when i call him he is on another call i dont know who he talks to.. so many things i keep thinking is making me so anxious.. i told him before i really like him. now i am so sick and tired of being the only one calling him everyday.sometimes when we talk he really shows alot of love towards me but the good times dont last a long time.. soon we fight or there is some other problem and again im the one calling him everyday. how do i solve this problem.. we do sort of flirt and all but are not commited or anything.. im scared to tell him because he said he is going to marry a girl his mum has chosen for him already.. please help me
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 Honey STOP calling him.
just STOP do not call
do not BEG him to see you or explain it to you
why do you demean yourself for a man that does not care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): helo but i like him very much. he is so close to me. how do i let go? i noe him for five years. almost always he is like that only. he is going to college and part time job therefore he is busy i understand but always he is also outside with his friends sometimes on saturdays or sundays he wont call me.im so tired of calling him all the time he does not return my cal.. when he do i ask him why he did not call me he would say sorry and convince me he was busy.. please help
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 July 2013):
I agree with WiseOwlE you need to let the man and the "relationship" go.
Stop rowing the relationship boat.
do not call him or email him or text him.
HE KNOWS how you feel and it does NOT MATTER TO HIM.
WALK away on your terms.. it hurts LESS in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): Sorry but you are wasting your feelings and time on this guy? In your culture the dating is not very common and it does not make sense to "go around" with him since he will definitely come up with the excuse that he will marry someone his mom has "chosen"....thats all BS...so my advice would be to move on and forget about this guys. Aakash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): You have to go no contact now. You have to break away, and move on. He is not romantically involved with you.
Pining and suffering over someone you never had in the romantic sense is pointless. So, if you can't just be a friend, and he is promised to another; you simply have to end your infatuation, or end your friendship.
These are your only options.
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